In many past relationships I've had a bad habit of "faking it" and I promised myself *this* time it would be different. I have an incredibly loving and supportive boyfriend, but he gets so hurt when he disappoints me in any way. I've faked it a few times already. Do I come clean and tell him and risk breaking his heart or keep it and the guilt to myself and vow NEVER to do it again?
I'm SO torn! Serious advise only please.
2006-09-17 10:34:36 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you "fess up" have you asked yourself why you have to fake it? (Besides that it's just not happening for you). Why don't you suggest using new techniques or positions or even toys to help you get there. Some women need more stimulation than others to get there and just experimenting something new might do the trick.
Sounds like you really love him and don't want to loose him. Try something new before you tell him. Men have big egos when it comes to pleasing a woman and they can get very hurt to know that they don't.
2006-09-17 10:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by mg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your boyfriend is loving and supportive, then he will understand your problem, even though he will get hurt. But one thing for sure is if you keep on faking it, it will tear you up inside, and somehow that guilt will automatically get out.
If you vow never to fake it again, he will realize that he's not pleasing you. So both ways he will get hurt, and so the best way is being honest. Maybe this way you both will be able to work out why this is happening.
Good luck.
2006-09-17 17:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Priyanka C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the trouble with this concept is that you set out feeling tonight feels good and so do i,,you and he start 'playing' and the next thing you know you are concerned with other things,,nothing to do with him and how he is performing,,its just for you an off day,,you cant stop and say,,ooh hun ,iv changed my mind because it wouldn't seem fair would it so you decide to go along and try to get all worked up,,the more you try the more you fail so what do you do?somethings are better kept secret i think and sometimes faking it stops either of you feeling bad,,fair enough you may not have had an orgasm but i bet you still enjoyed yourself didn't you,,,if i have offended anyone who feels lying is wrong,,sorry but,as i say,,sometimes you cant plan these things and you cant go back after starting when nothing really is wrong,,it happens and men do it too.
2006-09-17 17:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER TELL HIM YOU FAKED!!!!
You may as well put a sign on your back that says "ask me if I'm telling the truth no matter what the issue"
Either stop faking and go truthfull from now on, or live with the fact that you've faked....DO NOT TELL HIM
It's like telling him he's not good enough and you've had to lie to him all this time
2006-09-17 17:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to fake it how can he improve? As a guy I personally would prefer to be told that I wasn't pleasing you, along with that tell him what he could do to give you pleasure. More than likely he will. Good Luck! :)
2006-09-17 17:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by wewarren68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a good way for a relationship to go. Its best to tell him the truth because if he finds out you've been lieing or whatever it will make him not trust you. You might hurt his feelings but its better than making him not trust you. Just tell him.
2006-09-17 17:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not answering your question, really sorry I just had to say
jdavisauto you must be one really sorry, lonely man. No woman in the right mind would ever want you, let alone keep you. No man in his right mind would do so either. Considering there is no third option, you have to own a **** load of porn.
I pity your mother.
2006-09-17 18:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda Banana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just as I have aways said. There is no honesty in women. All women lies. Even here you lying about how you truly feel. You are not so torn up as you pretend, if so you would have never done it to begin with. You are just being a woman.
2006-09-17 17:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
be honest then u will get the most pleasure cos he will find out how to really make u ***
2006-09-17 17:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by pete 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋