I found a number in my boyfriends phone that pops up a few times especially when I am not around. he goes to an community college where there is typically alot of females and I feel if he has a friend ( especially female) he should tell me about her so that me and him could have a better trust for each other but when he doesn't that makes him look guilty. I don't know what to do, I don't know why he feel he should'nt tell me about his female friends if he tell me about his male friends. What should I do? does that means he is cheating or Im just trippin or am I just insecure or maybe...I should do tic-for-tac? someone tell me what they would do if they're mate was keeping people a secret especially if they are the opposite sex?
2006-09-17 10:31:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...And then when I find things out he gets mad at me from snooping but he leaves me no choice. But at the same time he wouldn't have time for another girl cause Im around all the time. I just think he is plotting to leave me or just going to start spending less time with me.
2006-09-17 10:33:59 · update #1
Either confront him or dump him.
It is too stressful to keep going with the relationship the way you've got it now.
I don't like being around people I can't trust. Let him know you need to be able to trust him, rather than needing to check up on him or know everything he does. Or, just dump him.
2006-09-17 10:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't want to be in a relationship that will cause you so much stress. If he is with you all the time like you claim, then perhaps your speculation is uncalled for. The best thing you should do is to tell him exactly how you feel. I was in a situation similar to this and the fact is, if you feel you have to snoop around then you that means you don't trust him and you should probably move on. I wish you the best though.
2006-09-17 10:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.. how do you know this number is from a female. Second,, could it be (if it was a female) that she could indeed be a friend (not intimate)? And what are the chances it could be a brother, uncle, grandfather, brother in law or just a male friend?? I have lots of male friends who call me (and yes they are just friends). I guess what I am saying, it sounds from what you wrote that you are assuming alot. I would suggest just trusting the dude until he gives you concrete evidence that he is no longer to be trusted. A relationship without trust is not much of a relationship. Good uck.
2006-09-17 10:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being sleazy and you should break it off and let him go his own marry way. Without trust and honesty you can not have a successful relationship. No matter how good the sex is.
2006-09-17 10:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would want my girlfriend to be apart of my life. the not knowing is reson for suspition, i would be. him pushing you a way hurts you and it is wrong. if he dose not want to share his life, why stay with him. how can you trust him wen he keeps secrets. if you need him in an emergancy .
it should not be a big deal but he made it into one, by not telling you. maybe he is dealing drugs.
2006-09-17 10:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by MASQUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters,If hes tripping because you found something out hes probably cheating and hell ya he should tell you if he has any girls for friends .and if hes keeping secrets then i would give your relationship a second thought.
2006-09-17 10:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by becky p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing this on the low, he may be going down low on his boyfriend. Try to join him with his boyfriend and see if you can get some action too.
2006-09-17 10:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ether trust him or you don't if not fined a new bf
2006-09-17 10:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by easymoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋