i've been with my boyfriend for three months now. The first few times we had sex it lasted and was great but over the past month or so he seems to cvm very quick, within like 10 minutes and it is so frustrating becasue i have not climaxed. I've told him how i feel, he says the sex feels really good which is why he cvms quick but im not satisfied and now don't know what to do.
Im not in this relationship just for the sex, but i do enjoy having sex so i expect my partner to give me the fufillment i want, and aslo it makes me feel like he does not love me as much and does not want to give me pleasure. Could i have a male prospective on this please (NO WEIRDO'S) if u ain't got nothing helpfull and positive to say please dont leave a message.
2006-09-17 10:29:10 · 28 answers · asked by KissxxMwahxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's just being greedy, I suggest you find a new guy(or girl) to satisfy your needs.
2006-09-17 10:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men always cvm faster at the start of relationship than later,probably he is a fast cvming person but in your first few dates he had some fun with himself before starting with you so he could take it longer but now he doesn't find it necessary to do that anymore for some reasons,decision is yours,but never a man cycle goes shorter after a while being with the same woman,never!
2006-09-17 11:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the reason that he cvms so quickly because he finds you all the more exciting occur to you? I found the way to get over this problem is by going to the toilet just before the actual penetrative sex. Works for me, anyway.
2006-09-17 10:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him about this and maybe try different things after he has climaxed to get him excited again. I hope this is not too vivid but maybe stroking or oral sex. Sometimes this may not even work, he may not be able to come back around (you know what I mean). I understand that you feel that if he loves you, he would make it enjoyable for you and try to please you. Some men are just selfish like that and it does not take away the love he has for you. He is just a man. You have to decide if you want to stay and work on it or if you just can't take it.
2006-09-17 10:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Tee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried bringing him off as part of your foreplay and then when he gets hard the 2nd time and YOU are ready for penetrative sex, he will last a lot longer.
Another thing to consider is that a lot of girls don't climax from penetration, most actually climax from stimulation of the clitoris with the finger or tongue. The sort of thing that should happen during Foreplay. Tell him that he can *** after you've *** :)
2006-09-17 10:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mark G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this kind of relationship will make u feel unhappy every time u make sex with ur boyfriend, because you feel he takes more than he gives. you are not a cow for him to use your body for his own instinct,men think there is something must go out from their body into women, its not a gun to shoot, sex is Miltie feelings in soul,mind and body together to comfort life and taste humanity needs and happiness. as much as he need a women you need a man, women teach love before sex.man give respect before power. its been only three months you've been know him. don't make it longer, tell him what you feel, if he don't want to under stand you from the beginning, your sex with him will be like bad habit, Makes you hate it every time you do it, and may be hate him too.
2006-09-17 11:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by kiko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be so quick to have sex let him pleasure u the after about 15 minutes then yo start to have sex so that it feels like you spent more time having sex and if that doesn't work then find some thins to do because u can't make the sex feel no so good because yo both won't be satisfied
2006-09-17 10:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by J0lLy rANchEr fRum dAT sWeet t0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really most men ejaculate fast the first time...that don't mean they have to stop just cause they got what they wanted. He just needs to stay there longer after he gets his....that's all...
Have you tried being on top? that way you can control to an extent how long it lasts. If he's there just for the one time for him...maybe you need to look elsewhere...relationships are a 2 way street...you get what you give...and if he's not giving for you then maybe you need to have second thoughts.
One thing I heard some while back...this is for him...do it for you tonight...this is for you...wake her in the morning and do it for her.
Hope this helps
2006-09-17 10:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kenneth S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should encourage him to do foreplay until you come before you actually have sex. at least that way you will get to come, even if it's not actually from sex. or you could build yourself up before hand so you're near coming then when you actually get to sex, you'll be ready to come about the same time as him.
to actually make him take longer could be hard, you could get the durex 'ejaculater' condoms, or just use two. If you don't want to do any of these things, just keep going and he will gain confidence and it will probably get better again.
2006-09-17 10:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by THJE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lessen the tension when making love, when he is stroking and you realize that he about to *** soon just get his mind off sex for a while,stop wining on the tip too much when his mind is on sex there is no doubt that he will come quick, just try and work that part out. I hope you get a chance to enjoy the fun out of sex, we all women need to get our part out of this thing!
2006-09-17 10:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest having him start and stop. Like start to have sex then when the feeling is getting to much for him to take, he need to just stop moving for a minute, maybe kiss and such till he gets control of it again.
He needs to work with you because it should be as pleasurable for you as it is for him.
2006-09-17 10:34:18 · answer #11 · answered by kimnwi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋