I want another one equal to the amount that he does not. A no usually will trump a yes, in these matters. I keep really going into a deep depression every time I think of not having any more. He gets scared thinking about having more. We both want eachother to be happy, but can't emotionally budge. How many of you have had this problem? How did you solve it? If you had another child, did the feeling of want for another baby go away?
2006-09-17 10:07:56 · 12 answers · asked by rebeccalynn_dj 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
We have had many long conversations about this. We communicate well. Its just that we both feel strongly the way we want things. We don't resent eachother for feeling the way we do, but can't make our feelings budge.
2006-09-17 10:12:55 · update #1
funny you all are on his side about it, because I only had two because of him. I was perfectly happy with just one, but I love him so much I gave him two. Now I have two I realize I can love more than one child, the shoe is on the other foot.
2006-09-17 10:19:58 · update #2
I am 28. But he wants a v-sectomy. so time might run out.
2006-09-17 10:52:26 · update #3
What are his reasons for not wanting another? Are they finanical? Emotional? Maybe he doesn't want to share you with yet another person, as many fathers do get jealous of new babies. My suggestion would be to wait. Maybe the feeling will pass (either his or yours). You could always volunteer somewhere with babies, or offer to babysit for a new mom (she'd LOVE that). It might be enough to quench your thirst for a newborn.
2006-09-17 10:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Stacey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stick with just the two. Another baby is so much work and I don't think you should convince someone to take on the responsibility. Be thankful you have two healthy children, and concentrate on keeping your marriage strong, traveling with your husband and kids, and mentoring your children into happy confident people.
If you feel the need for a baby some days, perhaps help out your friends and family with babysitting to get your "fix". You'll be a hero!
2006-09-17 12:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by tish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean about being sad about not having another baby. I felt that way after my 2nd daughter was born. I really didn't think I would have another. My husband and I were not trying to have another but I got pregnant with my third. We considered it Godly intervention because I truly don't believe my husband would have agreed to try for another baby. I have to tell you though I still got the sad feeling about not having another one after my 3rd was born. I did finally realize though that I could not just keep having babies. Although I love babies a lot I have come to love the different stages of childhood and realise that the more babies you have the more difficult it is to spend quality time with each of them. Just know that having more babies won't cure wanting more. But be sure to enjoy the ones you have!
2006-09-17 10:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
To not honor his feelings on the matter would be selfish. You already have two (presumably) healthy children. That's more than some people get in this life. So why push for more, when you can plainly see that your spouse doesn't want that? You've already won by having two. Concentrate on raising those children to be the best people that you possibly can. And think of the hell of being the child of someone who didn't even want another child to begin with. Is that fair to put someone through?
2006-09-17 10:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by solarius 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
How recently did you have your last one? Doctors reccomend waiting 18 months between pregnancies for optimal health for both you and the baby, so if you've just had one recently, maybe you should just use this time as a guideline to see how your feelings change or to give you and your husband more time to come to an agreement.
2006-09-17 12:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess if he feels that he doesn't want another child you should sit down a nd have a good discussion with him. Only he can tell you why he is happy with 2.
2006-09-17 10:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU CANNOT REACH AN AGREEMENT THEN DO NOT GET PREGNANT
''BY ACCIDENT'' IT'S NOT LIKE GETTING A PUPPY THAT YOU CAN GET RID OF IF YOU DON'T WANT IT. i have 3 children (now adults) and I always wanted babies because I love them, but the feeling leaves after a while.
2006-09-17 10:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please share how old you are. If you are over 40 and this is your last chance time period I would give you different advice then if you were both in your 20s or early 30s.
2006-09-17 10:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by funschooling m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
two kids are plenty if you have another one you will only want another one after that to round the numbers up. stick with 2 its enough
2006-09-17 11:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Joanne L 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if every couple only had two kids, we wouldn't have such a huge overpopulation problem on this planet. we are eating up our natural resources at an amazing rate.
2006-09-17 10:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋