Is is possible to aspire to love and let go of strife and misery? Does one have to always be in pain and hurt more than a heart bleeding from loss so profound that it is unconceivable to ever be at peace again? How can one love another when they deceive and look for satisfaction from another instead of coming to the one they love the most and are afraid of loving the way they profess to? Help......does anyone know what I am asking???????
2006-09-17 10:04:19 · 6 answers · asked by silhouette 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no issue with anger or hate. I loved from the beginning and I will love to the end of time (mine) I'm not spiteful, just in love, truly in love. I will always love. It's not over for me and will never be. Just because one talks to someone does not a cheater make. My heart is with 1 and that 1 alone. I'm not going to realize that I never loved at all because I will always love, as I said. If it's alone, then better than to let go of something that you know you will never accomplish anyway. You just feel sorry for the one you love, for their unfaithfulness to themselves for not believing or wanting to admit it. I have said it from the beginning and I continue to say "I love you"........He knows who he is and I'm not a badgirl either. It's just a user name, 1` among many.......
2006-09-18 12:52:35 · update #1
First of all, it's INconceivable not unconceivable.
Second, I'm looking for the same answer. When I figure it out, you'll be the first to know. All I can suggest is: focus on something else (career/education, health, family, etc.) and let love find you.
2006-09-17 10:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by 1/6,833,020,409 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the answer is to love yourself. No one can ever love anyone that doesn't love and respect themself. You alone can define what makes you happy in life. If someone or something is making you unhappy, that is a problem that has to be approached in a manner which will eventually resolve the issue. Things may not wind up the way you want it to, and thats ok. The reason that is ok is because life is filled with challenges that we as individuals or as groups must face. Some challenges are more difficult than others. Your willingness to have the strength to accept the things you can't change, the courage to change the the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference, will eventually define your quality as an individual. Our experience shape our personality as a variable. Another variable is how we react to our experiences. It's not what we wish to do, but what we do that defines us. Considering the dynamics of the situations we face, we must be dynamic ourselves, or walk away. The choice is yours, and whether it was the right decision or not will be determined by whether or not you are happy with the outcome.
2006-09-17 10:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by three6ty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to love...but it sounds like you are trying to love someone you really should let go of. And that is hard. I once loved a man that was destined to hurt me. And I knew it going in....but there was something so compelling about him...I was drawn to him so completely...he could finish my sentence before I could complete the thought. His touch was like electricity each and every time....25 years later I still feel breathless when I run into him. But I walked away because I knew I had to....I found another kind of love, and another kind of life. And I am grateful for the time I had with him and more happy now than I had ever imagined I could be....
Look into your heart and make the best decision you can...and look to the future....and know you are not alone but please don't continue a relationship that in the long run will destroy you. There is more out there even if you can't see it right now.
2006-09-17 10:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very confusing.
If you were really a badgirl, you would accept the fact that you occasionally damage the ones you love. If they didn't care about you, they wouldn't get hurt at all.
If the damaging is way outpacing the making-up, you might want to move on.
2006-09-17 10:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by El Gringo 237 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I did let go of the impossible dream and I feel much better now. And I am proud of myself. It is great to love in vain, but... to be loved is not bad either!
If you keep doing that... adoring somebody for nothing, with no return of your feelings..... you might get a burn-out, and he won't even know about that! Do you want that **** or you want to live instead, I am asking.
Somebody loved me so much that only one innocent hug of his healed me for a long time now... and made me forget about all my pains, all my misery, all my problems. I was a happy girl for a couple of days and let me tell you one thing: I want more of that! :)
A man who cannot return love is a piece of NOTHING. Useless! We women deserve to be treated like queens, and be adored, and cherished and we deserve attention and care and gentleness and manners. Those who don't get this point... let them rot in their egoism forever! They don't deserve a single second of thought... every second you spend of them is the sign of your weakness. And he won't appreciate that - they need a queen to worship.. and not a beggar who is begging for attention.
Move on, find another. It takes a second to switch your mind, it will take another second to notice the one who cares about you, TRULY, and a lifetime to live with the new person and to be happy!
:-)
2006-09-17 11:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is possible to let go of the hurt associated with love. it takes time but does work. but observe as soon as the hurt is gone reevaluate the love aspect and see if it was really love in the first place. many people hold on to feelings because they think they are in love , but in fact they are in love with the feeling of being in love, and when the hurt and anger is gone and you feel nothing then it was not love at all.
2006-09-17 10:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by tina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋