OKAY, everybody keeps attacking me by saying I am materiallistic?

Question

and ****, well SO WHAT!
Whats wrong with that? Doesnt every mom want their kid to have the best in life? Like a nice home in a non violent ghetto? Or nice clothes so they dont get made fun of and have their confidence ruined by other children, things like that.
The whole world is materialistic you know, even GOD gave the best of linens, materials and all to his ppl.

Answer 1

yeah but some ppl take it too far. Parents want the best for their children, but sometimes a humbling experience is better for them than a new pair of shiny shoes in the long run.

Answer 2

I do not agree with people attacking other people for the way they live their life. Everybody has their own way of living. With that said, I will say that by giving your child whatever they want, you are showing your child that material items are more important than anything else and they will not respect their items or anybody elses, for that matter. However, if they are saying these things to you because you live in a nice neighborhood and have a nice house, that is not being materialistic. We all need to feel safe and comfortable in our home. If you fear every time you walk out the door, then it is definiotly not a place for you, but if you feel safe and you feel secure when your kids play outside, then that is a place for you and your family. There is no dollar amout that can be placed of safety and security.

The other is that maybe they are just jealouse.

Answer 3

I answered the last question, and now I'll give you my reasoning for why.

I don't need nice things to prove my worth. I'm college educated, have 2 great kids who are healthy, and do well in school, and I'm happy. So there are my bragging rights. I don't need to brag that I can buy a BMW, it's just a car. I don't need to wear name brands, they're just clothes. My kids have nice things, but they're not all name brand to show off how much money I can waste. I'll shop at Wal-Mart or Target. The clothes I get are just as nice looking and a hell of a lot cheaper. I drive an older car because it STILL RUNS. Why would I need to go out and spend a butt load of cash on an overpriced car? When I finally need a new car, I won't be buying a BMW or a Mercedes. Not because I can't afford it, but because I don't need one. I'll probably buy a used Toyota or a Honda. They run forever and parts don't cost an arm and a leg like European imports do. My house is old and a tad small, but it's paid for and it's home.

So everyone is materialistic when it comes to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, but beyond that, I don't need or want to be that way. Because then I'll just be another sheep like all the snobby women who pick their kids up from school in their brand new SUV's and BMW's. I pull up in my '92 Taurus and pick up my kids just like they do. The difference is, I can see under my nose and I don't have to place my value and self worth on how much money I have or what I can buy. I'd like my kids to grow up the same way.

Answer 4

I think you must be seeing some truth in what people are saying to you, or you wouldn't be so upset. You want to know why people keep attacking you? You brought it on yourself.
The last 2-3 questions you asked make referrence to the amount of money you spent on your kids clothes for school and saying that you want a BMW and to brag about going to Hawaii. So what, if you did have this stuff. Would it make you a happier person? Would it make your kids smarter, more well rounded, or more polite? No it wouldn't. There is nothing wrong with wanting your kids to have nice things and not get made fun of, but what does it matter how much you spend on the school clothes? I could probably bet you that if you took $100 to buy you child school clothes and I took $100 to buy school clothes for my child, I would come back with 3 times as much stuff as you, cause I wouldn't be buying expensive name brands so that the kids at school and their parents could see what all we had. I would be frugal and stretch that $100 as far as I could.

It is not about the amount of money you spend on your kids or how much money you have in your bank account. You make it sound to the rest of us that it is, and that is why you keep getting attacked.

Answer 5

I wonder what it is you're teaching your children though.

Are you teaching them that they can have everything they want anytime they want it? Do you think it's practical for them to grow up thinking that? Are you going to support them forever?

One day they will have to go out and get a job and start at an entry level position (unless you are independently wealthy of course) and they are going to have to learn how to budget to pay bills and rent and buy groceries and all the basics before they can have money for luxuries like going out to eat or getting concert tickets. They may need to travel using public transit and find out what it's like to not be able to afford a car. Will they consider themselves short-changed? Will they be able to handle being on a budget? How will this affect them psychologically? Will they be calling you for money all the time? Will they be able to handle credit or will they bury themselves in debt thinking they MUST have these luxuries now, instead of working and saving for what they want?

I'm not judging, and I don't know what you are teaching your children about money and things and having or earning them, but it's just a thought.

Answer 6

These statements are general as you did not provide enough detail. Forgive me if things I relate are out of place.

Accept that your mom might be doing the best as she sees fit. You will have a chance later in life to show her how it should be done.


Nothing is wrong with wanting the best in life for yourself. If you have earned the money for them through honest work, there is nothing wrong with having them.

There is somethng wrong with imposing the burden on another for your own comfort.

However bad you see it,it does not have to be as good as it is.
What otheres say about you is not your business.

Answer 7

Having "nice things" is not a bad way to live, but you also must instill the love, respect and kindness that children need to grow up with, so they aren't labeled as the "snobs" or "preppies" of the class. Sometimes kids are so used to getting their "nice things", the don't remember or think of the fact you work hard to give them the finer things in life. Make sure they know that!

Answer 8

hey hun....i don't see any thang wrong with buying your kids nice clothes, food, etc.. as long as you do it within your budget ;) but when some one starts to go into dept to afford them then i think it's dumb....i personally buy most of my clothes and my kids clothes at thrift stores ,Walmart, and the Dollar stores cause they have great deals and the clothes are nice looking...now that i think about it i have never spent money on any brand name clothes lol....also i am teaching my child that if others make fun of you for the clothes you wear or lack of big names then their just shallow people any way and not much of a friend if their gonna judge your self worth by the clothes on your back or the food in your lunch box....love daisy

Answer 9

God did have the best, and he does provide us with the best, but it shouldnt consume us.

I got the shitt beat out of me in school because we were so dirt poor that i owned one pair of holey jeans.

I survived quite nice.

My cousins had everything in life, the best house the best clothes, all so they could be popular, because their mom didnt want them to be made fun of.

Now theyre all miserable and they hate eachother, have been halued off to jail for underaged drinking from all the parties they had to be at to remain in the cool crowd...

I think you can be even more messed up when you're trying to be perfect, than when you put up with being flawed.

Answer 10

it doesnt hurt to give your child these things but ur childs needs love more than anything. Instead of a pair of Nikes take him/her to the park, buy them something educational. Noone will make fun of your child if he/she doesnt have the lastest clothing. They will make fun of them regardless. We know how some cruel kids can be