I consider myself to be an intelligent, attractive, ambitious, level-headed person and yet when it comes to my romantic life... I always pick the most arrogant, selfish men who blatantly hurt and use me and couldn’t care less! Why?! Everyone tells me I could do better and that I deserve more and yet I just keep picking the "Mr. Bigs" of the world and not the "Aidens"! Does anyone else have this problem?
(**I should add though that I loved Big and was really happy they ended up together!**)
2006-09-17 09:33:43 · 19 answers · asked by Chloe M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Big was a great guy he just struggled with letting go of his selfishness and having Carrie walk away from him to realize what he lost. That said, Big is a fictional character. I love Sex and the City, have every episode on DVD and watch them over and over. Art truly imitates life. There are plenty of Bigs and Aidans in the world.
We like the "bad boys" because they are fun and exciting and passionate and we leave the Aidans because they are dull and steady and predictable. I personally would rather have a Big than an Aidan but both cases are actually rare. As I pointed out, Big wasn't a bad guy, he was sexy, self assured and rich, only when Carrie saw her own worth did he also see worth in her. It's not the men that's the problem, it's us. Do a better job of respecting yourself and others will respect you also.
2006-09-17 09:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are attracted to the dominant qualities that the bad boys have. They are confident, secure, and don't let people push them around. You're not necessarily attracted to bad boys, just happens that most bad boys have those qualities that you are attracted to.... if that makes any sense. The bad news is, most of the good guys that have the same qualities will turn into "doormats" or "wussies" when they meet a woman they want to be with. This in turn causes the woman to lose her attraction for him. Therefore, she is stuck picking from the bad boys. You don't have any control over what attracts you to someone. Once you are attracted, you'll do just about anything to be with that person. The best thing you can do is to just start being aware of what qualities you find attractive in a guy, and what qualities you find unattractive. At least then you can be a little more likely to find the right type of person.
2006-09-17 10:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by Shooter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carrie and Big ended up together because the ratings people knew women would just love that kind of prince charming whisking off cinderella type ending!
Women are attracted to bad boys because they don't have enough going on in their life and need someone to create drama for them...the Aidens of the world are too boring! Carrie would much rather meet up with Big in a hotel room for a romp than sit at home and strip wood floors with aiden. Catch my drift? Fill up your life and you will not need a bad boy. Trust me.
2006-09-17 09:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. The really attractive, sexy guys try not to act like they notice, but their remarks and overall arrogance is attractive to some. I'm thought of to others as attractive and I think the dudes are so use to girls catering to them and kissing their asses that when they get someone that not trying to win their affection they don't know how to act. For the next snob, you can associate with them, but act like you're not paying attention to them and you really don't care what they think. Works for me.
2006-09-17 09:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by dcbossygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the reasons for your choosing the wrong guys lie in the way you see yourself --- you emphasize you are intelligent, attractive and ambitious but have you got qualities like kindness (for old people, children, animals, people who need help...), sense of humour, modesty that help you attract the right sort of men?
2006-09-17 09:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-17 09:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by B i n g o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to know you can do better then you will girls have this thing that they settle for second best just because they truely dont believe they can do better, i used to always go for the worst guys, but now i realise i have a lovely fionsei
2006-09-17 09:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Els M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so was I! we have this habit of looking for the 'bad boys'. they just apeal to us. i think its the confidence that they carry themselves with that makes us want them.i had that problem for yrs
finally i am married to a Aiden(ok that not his name) . i stopped looking for the handsome confident guys. i married on ewho was madly in love with me. and he treates me like queen even 7 yrs of marriage.
BEST OF LUCK WITH UR AIDEN
2006-09-17 09:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls have always been attractive 2 bad boys because of how they r demanding in what they want and how when they want it they'll get it (and they can also be demanding in the bedroom and that's not a bad thing);)
2006-09-17 09:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's part of the mystery. They are nothing like you and what you would normally date. Forbidden fruit is lovely because it's forbidden
2006-09-17 09:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋