My ex-boyfriend broke up with me a couple of months ago. We talked on the phone and stuff, but the conversations never seemed to go well. He is a jealous and angry man. But, he said that he still loved me and that he wanted to work things out and get back together. I told him that I didn't think that was going to happen. About a month ago, I slept with another guy. My ex called me a slut for doing this, because the guy I slept with was just passing through town and I guess it was just a spur of the moment thing. But, I really liked this other guy and he just said the right thing at the right time I guess. Is what I did slutty? Am I a bad person for doing this?
2006-09-17 08:51:07 · 52 answers · asked by Sara B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you did this with every man you could I say yes otherwise what others think is really not the issue or a question anyone can give a true answer to. the answer is within yourself. Do you feel slutty for giving into your passions and desires. To he ll with what others may think you do not live for them and they will not pay you to be like them so be yourself and proud of who you are.
2006-09-17 09:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
no, not really. But you should have officially broke it off with the guy you're seeing before you just go and look for comfort somewhere else. How would you feel if he did the same thing and slept with another girl spur of the moment?
2006-09-17 08:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by dudekunle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't attached to your ex at the time so you don't have to answer to him. You did what you felt right/good to you at the time and your happiness is the only one that should matter to you right now. Your ex is jealous and angry which translates to a not so great guy. Don't let his behavior and unacceptable comments get you down. Move on and don't talk to your ex anymore. Cease all contact... that includes texts, phone calls, person to person talks... everything! You don't need that negativity.
2006-09-17 08:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and No. I don't think what you did made you a sl*t. A sl*t just keeps sleeping with a lot of people. You probably felt let down from your failed relationship from your ex. It was a rebound thing. So, no, that doesn't make you a sl*t. And, I don't think it makes you a bad person either. You weren't dating anyone when you did this anyway!? If you had cheated on your boyfriend you would be a sl*t and a bad person, but you weren't even dating him! Like you said,"he's a jealous and angry man."
2006-09-17 08:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes that happens, you feel really connected with someone and want to act on it. It doesn't make you a slut - your ex was just jealous. It is risky though to go with someone you don't really know so don't make a habit of it. Get to know the person first.
2006-09-17 09:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all learn that a walking man does not mean fullfillment! Keep your legs CLOSED! You broke you boyfriends trust. Did you tell him what you did? How did he find out? Telling him ?.... No, you need to tell and ask the lord Jesus Christ for forgivness. You have broken his trust. Might be over for you two. Be more careful in the future, good luck for your sweetie. Don't condem yourself for what you have done wrong, get up and don't make the same mistake! God will forgive you, you just need to forgive yourself.
2006-09-17 09:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by Wenikiilei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your boyfriend only said that because he was jealous. It would have only been slutty if you did it while you and your boyfriend was still together. When you break up guys normally say stupid things like that because they are not capable of expressing how they really feel.
2006-09-17 08:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how many times you have done this. It doesn't make you a bad person you just fell for smooth talker when you were vulnerable. I don't think I would make a habit of this with all the STD's these days.
2006-09-17 09:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by coupnomo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate it when this kind of stuff happens why is it always when a girl wants to have a one night stand she's called a slut but when guys do it he's a pimp?? wtf is that, first of all you were single at the time so thats none of your ex's business in the first place and please dont ever be with a guy that will disrespect you by calling you a slut, he doesn't deserve you plus was he totally and completely faithful in the time that you were apart??
2006-09-17 09:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by abigail 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one night stands, even if you like the other person, is slutty. What were you thinking? And how did your ex-boyfriend know. Respect your body and yourself.
2006-09-17 08:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋