I love this girl, she's the most important person in my life. She's been my support when I was at my lowest, I want to marry her, someday. The thing is lately I've just treat her so bad and she's still by myside. I get rapped up in work and my buisness and barely see her. I know she's hurting and I dont want to hurt her anymore. I just can't figure out why I do this to the one I love so much. I'm just at the point of my life where I'm exceeding at what I do, but I don't want to lose her. What do I do to be the man she deserves.
2006-09-17 08:34:08 · 21 answers · asked by Metal_Monkey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take her somewhere romantic and tell her exactly what you have just told us here.
Then, take an alarm clock to work and set it for a reasonable hour that you wish to leave the office and when it rings ~ go home...
I know that it takes a good 5 years to get settled in a business b ut you have to maintain some balance in your life or you will end up an extremely lonely successful businessman!
Good luck...
2006-09-17 08:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least you are aware of it and so you can change and it loks like you want to as well, which is great! I think you are a very lucky man to have such a kind, loving and understanding person by your side. Show her your respect to her by your behaviour towards her; buy her flowers, go out to dinner with her and show your affection towards her and tell her you care about her deeply even if you can't apologise to her. it's difficult for men to say sorry for some reason. without a good job you cant have a life a good life a house and car and a good marriage/partner, but do you want to be alone for the rest of yur life? I don't think people want that either, what is a life without someone by your side? So treat her with the respect that she deserves, i'm sure she has respected you as well? you need to have a balance and you have to see her more, she's the love of your life! so i would have thought you would be eager to see her and make every effort to do that. So goodluck to you, i hope it works out well for you!
2006-09-17 09:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Im not sure if my answer will be the right one but I will try to advice you in anyway that I possibly can. Well first of all this is a lovely story, two people after such a long time still being able to keep in contact with each other and still be able to spend time together. By the sounds of it, she is very interested in you, other wise she wouldnt have booked the holiday, wouldnt have wanted to catch up. I think she does really like you, although I think she needs time to cool off about her ex. If she doesnt get in contact with you by the end of the day today why dont you try to leave her a long message just saying how you feel about her and just to tell her that you are willing to wait for her if she needs time and that you will be there for her if she needs you. I hope this helped I know its not much.
2016-03-27 06:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you seem really loving!
Well, i am sure you are not intentionally trying to hurt her, and you need to make this very clear to her.
Just because you are putting your career first at the moment does not mean that you care any less for her, as long as you let her know this, as well as knowing this for yourself, it will all work out.
Not only is it amazing to love and be loved, but to share all of your dreams and aspirations with that person.
She seems like she just misses you, a lot, understandably...but don't let it dishearten you...i am sure you would feel the same way if the situation was reversed.
Just call her often...send her some flowers...which i have a feeling you might already be doing... :)
Don't stress it...as long as she is aware of what you are doing and why, and also how important she is to you...and also how important your work is at the moment, she will understand.
Communication is key...
2006-09-17 08:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw, well right here is the first step. At least you realize it. Now you just need to fix it..
1. Take a day off work or take a saturday
2. Show up at her house with flowers
3. Take her somewhere special (think of what she likes)
4 Rent a movie at home
5. Watch it and cuddle
6. Give her a massage maybe?
7. Take this day to make up for anything you thing you did wrong
8. At the end of the day explain to her why you did this and tell her that Whenever your attention may be elsewhere it is not intentional and that you will always be there for her. Tell her you love her.
Good Luck!
2006-09-17 08:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost every single relationship problem is based on how the person feels about themselves....so, if they feel bad about themselves they will often project this onto someone they love.
Why are you treating her so bad? Why are you not making time to see her? Most important person in your life you say - If that were really true then you wouldn't treat her bad right? You can't figure "what" out? It's obvious to me that you HAVE figured it out, and you are just looking to all of us to justify your bad behaviour. You should be so lucky to have someone who is willing to put up with your crap and stick around! She probably has a low self esteem as well, and therefore your co-depend relationship will continue.
2006-09-17 08:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your priorities straight. If you're doing these things because you want to invest now in order to have a better life with her later, explain that to her and work out a compromise that you both can live with. Remember though that a relationship is also like a business - you have to keep working at it or it will fail.
2006-09-17 08:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prioritize what's important in your life, your money or her. Or maybe your just not ready for a committed relationship right now, cuz it obviously sounds like you don't deserve. Just step up and think about what it would be like to lose her and then imagine losing your money. Which one would hurt the most...take it from there.
2006-09-17 08:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you love her like you say you do then you need to make a tough decision... stay with the woman who means so much to you or stick with your job... Either cut back on how much work you are doing to be with her or cut her loose to find someone else who can spend the time on her that she deserves. Think about this... your job or the woman you love...? You can always find another job but you may not be able to find another woman like this one. Your choice.
2006-09-17 08:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Sometimes you have to make compromises in life. Make arrangemnets with her to spend every sunday night with just her or something like that so that you know you will always have at least that time together. Just make sure you let her know that you really regret that your making her hurt and that you want to find a way to change that.
2006-09-17 08:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by katie t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋