I have been dating a man for three months now. Things between us have been great. We seem to "click" very well together, he also thinks the same. I am 27, have been divorced once, with 2 small children and he is 35, divorced twice with no kids. The problem is he tells me he cannot commit right now and is "still looking" even though he admits we are a good fit. I know he is dating around and in some way feels guilty about it. He wants his cake and eat it too! He told me that this time is has to be for good, he doesn't want to get divorced again and wants to make sure he is with the right person. I realize the kids are an issue with us, not that he doesn't like them, they are too young only 14 months and 2/1/2. He says he would like to start a family but wonders if we could handle three young children all at once. In his eyes, we would be headed down the divorce road once again, which we both don't want. He doesn't want this to end but still wants to date around, what do I do?
2006-09-17 08:23:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like you are more invested in him, than he is in you. While I agree that dating around is healthy, and you want to keep your options open, after three months I think you're entitled to a "Where is this going?" conversation. he seems to have a lot of doubts. I think this guy isn't the one for you. I would end it. Vanessa, you deserve a man who knows what he wants!
2006-09-17 08:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hate to say this, but you need to let him go and don't look back. He is allowing you to think that your beautiful babies are in his way. That's too bad for him. Your children are a part of the package. He is not the only man that will ever be willing to date you. You can have lots of dates. You need to be the picky one. Remember, you have the kids to protect from men you date. Men don't need protecting. He is trying to make you feel that he is the pitiful one, and he is NOT. Your kids are. They will suffer the most out of all the heartaches that YOU endure. So protect those babies. BE PICKY! This man is not good enough for your children. And that is that!
2006-09-17 08:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should dump him. he wants his cake and eat it to. how will you feel when he brings you a STD. you are young and can find a real good man and wants to commit to a relationship. if you want to talk about let me know.
2006-09-17 08:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by hotmaxus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are kidding yourself, its not a good fit. He is seeing other people and is not comfortable with children. If that isn't a square peg in a round hole what is? Why would you put yourself in that kind of situation? And more importantly WHY WOULD POTENTIALLY PLACE YOUR KIDS IN THAT SITUATION? You don't have that right.
2006-09-17 08:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your not a good fit, if he is still looking. He hasn't found what he is looking for yet.
2006-09-17 10:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by S-n-S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, already boring! seriously, if u gonna write a long *** stuff like dis, at least u should make it interesting lloking! n what's up with the #s n dates? who cares! just joking, but srry, idc!
2006-09-17 08:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Toki 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
-tell him you want that you want date around. Lets see what he has to says about that.
-you know what just DUMP HIM! ok
2006-09-17 08:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by sweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say just straight up dump him. i mean if this guy was really serious with you he wouldn't want to "date around".
2006-09-17 08:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by HOW BOUT THEM DAWGS♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop hangin wit him and get wit someone esle and that will slove ur problem.
2006-09-17 08:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
needs.
2006-09-17 08:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋