hi i have a bf from the uk i am in toronto he hasnt been to c me for nearly too yrs he says he loves me and is working hard as a broker to make enough to move to me but he used to come to see me every 2 months he gives me money for the last 3 yrs we been dating for rent and bills but its dried up recently and i lost my flat and car cos of it i dont have a job and rely on him totally, should i dump him or asking too much he must have given me 100k over the last few yrs and we havnt slept together yet cos i want him over here peremently before we go that far, i am living on the breadline he still says he want me and us to work and is trying his hardest am i asking too much, i have not been in position to go to see him or give him any money back all i want is for us to buy a house and live together and be happy and he is trying to fund the deposit am i asking again too much of him because he is saying i am pressurising him
2006-09-17 08:18:51 · 11 answers · asked by pete 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a job,i feel sorry for the poor bloke,why dont u send him money when u get ur first pay
2006-09-17 08:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I believe relationships have to be 50-50 thing. Although my bf thinks otherwise~ ^^ (hon stop spoiling me with everything). But u can't always count on him for everything. You need to support yourself and and your relationship. Besides what happens if it doesn't work out in the long run? Can u handle being Independent? You're so use to him taking care of u that I'm not sure if u can. At least that's my problem. My bf takes care of so much for me that when he's away I feel like the tasks are somehow harder and I worry I'm losing my independence. Maybe u should reevalute you and then think abt this question again
2006-09-17 08:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by celestia_night 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys never even slept together and hardly ever see each other, you shouldn't rely on him and expect him to give you money. That is also a big turn off. You should try to be independent. Go out and get a job to pay your bills. Maybe he is talking to you less because you ARE pressuring him. Think about all this and realize what you're doing. I hope you figure it all out.
2006-09-17 08:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not surprised he hasn't given you any money - why should he if he is not coming over to stay with you? at least he's not been there for two years! or may be he thinks the money he gave you in the past is enough to cover for quite a while?
why didn't you tell him you lost your flat? get a job honey and be self sufficient.
i can't believe if he is so much in love with you he can stand not seeing you for two years! particularly he used to go every two months.
get a job and move on with your life. good luck.
2006-09-17 10:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you just ask a few more tim es are you asking too much? Sorry , but are you for real?? I think the fact that you haven't bothered to get yourself a job and act like something approaching a responsible adult has taken its toll on him. My guess? He's had enough of giving so much time, money and effort to a loser like you but is too nice to say its over, because for him, it is.
2006-09-17 08:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would say cut the guy some slack, he has already invested heavily (more the fools him), I cant believe this type of relationship has lasted as long as it has. You should get a job, then you wouldnt have lost your flat or car, that is not his fault.
2006-09-17 08:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by p_sheard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry this must be really hard for both of you, but the ovious thing to do is get a job, then at least you have your own income and you dont need to rely on him.
2006-09-17 08:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by xxibumbenxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and stop scrounging off the poor bloke.
2006-09-17 08:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by tfd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this guy soft or what ?I'm not surprised he's not been in contact giving you all his money and nothing in return if you ask me he's better off out of it.you sound like a gold digger to me.
2006-09-17 08:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by kezz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should get a job a pay for ur own flat and ur own car.
2006-09-17 08:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by pooh bear wifey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋