everyone always says younger people like 15 16 cant fid love at htat age but what if they do can they? i kno i am in love i am planning on marring this man and i cant wait but my pernts think that i am stup[id for even thinking baout it cause i am too young cant u fall in love young?
2006-09-17 08:14:47 · 12 answers · asked by Amanda M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with my husband for ten years, and I met him when I was 16.
I didn't know it was love at the time.
Then I didn't want to accept it.
And when I did realize we were ment to be, I have never been more in love with him to this day my love for him grows.
But this is rare, not everyone stay together out of high school. And if they do it usually doesn't last.
But only you know how you feel, don't jump in to anything too soon if you want things to last. Good luck!
2006-09-17 08:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by TIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to wait until you are a bit older to marry. I married my husband when I was 23 years old, and sometimes I still wish I would have dated more. We have been happily married for seven years.
Remember, you're still young and you have your entire life ahead of you. You'll never know what your life could have been like.
You definitely need to finish school and experience life a bit more before making a huge decision like marriage.
Best of luck to you and your decisions. Just keep in mind, you don't want your parents to be able to say "I told you so" when you have to move back in with them.
2006-09-17 08:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by vir9inia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you are too young or not too young to be thinking of marriage at 15 or 16 years of age depends on the culture and the country where you live.
In your country, people (including your parents) believe that this is too young. And they will not help you in any way to realize your dreams until in their view you become old enough.
But there are lots of girls your age in some other countries who do begin planning their marriage at this age. And many of them do get married at 17, 18, 19, or 20 years of age. And of course, these girls get help and encouragement from their families to get married at that age.
Perhaps for you the most important question to answer is how well will you live and how will you and your husband cope with the difficulties of having a family at such a young age?
In countries where young married couples get lots of help from their families, this is not a difficult problem to deal with.
But in your country, you and your husband will be completely on your own. And being completely on your own with a young child or two who depends on you is no fun. With no college education, you and your husband would have to work at minimum-wage jobs and struggle to pay for the bills. This kind of life can be very stressful. And this kind of life can eventually lead to angry feelings, marital conflict, and divorce.
You parents are right that your planning for an early marriage is unrealistic, not because you are too young but because your parents and everyone else around you and your husband will refuse to help you accomplish it. And without their help, your dreams of a happy marriage at a young age can easily turn into a horrible nightmare that continues for the rest of your life.
When you are completely on your own and you don't get help from anyone, then it's best to get some professional education, save up some money, and then get married. This what people normally do in your country and culture. And this is what your parents expect you to do to.
You can choose to go against your culture and against your parents' wishes. But this will be a difficult road to stay on for you and your husband because everyone will disapprove of your 'too-young-relationship' and no one will help.
2006-09-17 09:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why someone that yound needs to look for love. There is a reason why everyone says 15 or 16 year olds can't find love. Besides that you all seem to think you need someone NOW...which is the absolute wrong way to think.
2006-09-17 08:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by killercrimson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15 and 16, you are a walking hormone. Love isn't about that pitter patter you feel when you see someone. Love is a commitment, for better or for worse...it's an action that you do everyday. It's about sacrifice and dedication. And it's a lot of work.
2006-09-17 08:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they can't find love love, however they can feel the effects of love. It's like a trial size of shampoo, you get just enough to make you go out and look for the family size bottle.
2006-09-17 08:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u can deffinitely 'find love' at that age the only problem is that life has never really dissapointed u so u cant really make what ur parents would call rational decisions...ah, i say go for it, marry him!
2006-09-17 08:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to get married. Get a career first.
2006-09-17 08:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by Fran K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young. You have too much free time, so you start to fantasize. When you are older, your mind is a little sharper. Please wait a few years and listen to your parents.
2006-09-17 08:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by johnnylakis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not stupid just not smart. If you love someone at that age wait ....i mean like years.....you have alot of growing up to do
2006-09-17 08:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋