I'm 13 my Mom always asks me if I want to play a board game, and I don't want to hurt her feelings by saying no. She always bugs me about and says I'm afraid of losing to her when I say no. She is REALLY bugging me. How can I be firm and just say "NO"
2006-09-17 08:12:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am gratefull, o lemme revise this, any ideas that a 13 yr old can do with her mo mfor tons of fun?
2006-09-17 08:16:22 · update #1
We playes Yatzee....she won... :D
2006-09-17 08:42:24 · update #2
She's sweet! So are you for not wanting to hurt her feelings.
Just tell her you'd rather play cards for money. Perhaps that might discourage her...
2006-09-17 08:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom realizes your growing up and have your own things in mind to do these days . I think it's nice that you mentioned not wanting to hurt her feelings , as a parent myself that shows she's done a pretty good job of raising you . Your mom has seen the changes in you and knows your becoming closer and closer to a time when her little girl isn't so little anymore . She knows you will have a life of your own and all that involves in the not too distant future . Try to keep in mind that she loves you so much she may well indeed wish you were 5 again so she could hold onto you longer , that's alot of love dear. She wants to remain as close to you as she can for as long as she can because thats what parents do . Your feelings are quite normal also and they are understandable having been a 13 year old myself once . Sometimes you'll just want to leave and go out to hang out with friends , once in a while I hope you'll indulge your mom and go ahead and play a board game with her , it would mean more than you realize to her I think . She will understand there will be times when you simply do not want to do this though don't be surprised by her repeated requests . Keep up with the communications with your mom as much as possible because it's difficult to see your child reach maturity and to let them go , it is also a happy but difficult time . Discuss some of the things I've mentioned with your mom perhaps or look for the clues I've provided that I think I'm on track here. You sound like a great 13 year old and best of luck to you !
2006-09-17 15:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, try not to be offended at Mom's attempts to reach out to you. Right now, she's trying to bond with you and build you guys' relationship. There are alot of things, (good, bad and weird) that happen during adolescence and she probably is trying to make sure you guys stay close and also to let you know you can come to her with anything. Once you leave for college, life changes.Take advantage of her love and desire to be friends with you. Discuss with her that you love her and sometimes need your own space, but don't reject her. There will be things that only Mom can help you with and you'll need to feel comfortable enough to go to her. Play board games with her, it won't kill you. Besides, you'll need the practice for your first year of college! Keep you head up sweetie and try the 10-10-10 approach (it's in this month's Oprah magazine.) When making decisions, ask yourself these questions:
1) How will this affect me in 10 minutes?
2) How will this affect me in 10 hours?
3) How will this affect me in 10 years?
These questions will give you a good perspective of what's important pretty quickly. Be encouraged and try to be more open to Mom's love.
2006-09-17 15:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing a board game doesnt mean she thinks youre 5!
You sound like youre becoming a difficult teenager, not the first or the last.
Just chill out your mum is probably bored and has no-one else to play with.
2006-09-17 15:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mean, you have a great mom who just wants to spend time with you. From what you've said, it sounds like it doesn't matter what you do, just as long as you do something together. Offer her an alternative to board games.
Side note: I enjoy board games and I'm almost 15! :D
2006-09-17 15:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think it is nice that ur mum wants 2 sped time with u ..... i wasnt dat lucky and belive me , i missed her. m 17 by d way :-)
well sweety i understand dat she really bugs u, coz her idea of havin fun does not exactly match up to u. i think the best way out of this is to tell her what u wud like 2 do with her coz obvoiusly she wants 2 be wid u and she gets really irrititated when shez makin an effort n u r not exactly reciprocating.
well instead of saying no, u can ask her to help u out in other activities instead of playing board games.
well i hope dat helps, u can alwayz e-mail me in case :)
Tush
2006-09-17 15:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by Toshika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "No thanks but I don't feel like playing right now". You will start to be independant and eventually will have you own interests that may or may not include board games. Perhaps you could ask your Mom to do something you like and see how that goes.
2006-09-17 15:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by PetitChristian2112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Off topic slightly, but I'm 13 and I LOVE board games!
2006-09-17 15:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jack J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom probably loves playing board games and wants to share that with you. Give her a big hug and say "Thanks for asking mom, but I just don't enjoy broad games as much as you"
Then thank God for giving you a good mom, theres so many bad ones out there.
2006-09-17 15:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by irish_yankee51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just wants some family time. don't be so hard on her. at 13, you're not exactly an adult. you'll wish you had more time with her later on. if you insist on not playing just say, "mom, i don't want to play that board game, can we go do something else? perhaps shopping?"
:D
2006-09-17 15:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋