At least I can never be (unless I exercise 100% emotional restraint). There was a girl who worked in my lab - she was short and very ordinary looking, but we still spent time together in our work & used to sometimes hang out, and along with other friends as well & you know...have a good time. Now, I don't know what has happened to me - I have caught feelings for her & every time I am around her, I feel you know...wierd & wanting to "involve" with her. Now, I haven't told her about this yet because of two reasons:
1. I am not ready for a relationship at the moment, due to financial circumstances
2. Fear of rejection & eventual chaos
I am just worried if I can really hold out for any longer. Another thing that confuses me is that I never wanted to talk to her or hang out in the first place, it was always she who made the approach & me being a nice guy followed her - so, has she actually "won" me?
2006-09-17 07:56:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your heart says yes but your mind says no. I dont think she has "won you" but if you think she's intrested in you well just let things flow. but only if you want them to!
2006-09-17 08:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Meli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A persons personality will eventually be more of an influence for attraction (Love is blind).
As far as your financial circumstnaces, that is just an excuse, that will never hold you back from liking (or confessing you like) someone.
The eventual chaos is a better excuse, but there is only so much you can take. Imagine if she tells you in the next few days that she met a guy that she likes and would like to date... how would you feel?
I reccommend telling her how you feel. If she likes you, thats great. If she doesnt then you have to accept what will happen.
I fell for my best friend and it was mutual, but he made the choice to be with a different girl. Our friendship did not last, but I am ok now (this happened a few years ago). It was a difficult experience but Im happy with the way the situation took its course and ended. Sometimes I miss our friendship, but I dont miss him as an interest.
2006-09-17 15:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I see some things here that I need to address first. Starting off, you say she is "ordinary looking"...beauty is in the eye of the beholder and instead of only looking at her physical appearance, I advise that you also look at her heart. See, physical beauty fades and in this day and time, too easily bought at a price. So if you are looking only at physical beauty, maybe you need to reevaluate your wants and needs in someone you want to be in a relationship with. Be more concerned about her heart and mind, not how she will look to your boys.
Second, you say that you "never really wanted to talk to her or hang out". So why, all of a sudden, is she desirable to you? Has she taken interest in someone else and not so much in your anymore? You know...people start to get our attention when they stop chasing us. Brings us back to reality, ya know?
I applaud your efforts to want financial stability, because so many want to be sorry and live off of others (both sexes are guilty of this). But dont let fear and your financial status cause you to miss out on love. A good woman will love and support you as long as you are trying. And when times get hard will help you. A good woman will take care of a good man.
Question for you....have you "won" her?
Stay blessed!!
2006-09-17 16:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fear of rejection? Please, this is not something to be afraid of and there will always be "financial circumstances" in one form or another. If your wondering how interested she is in you just drop a few subtle hints or go for the full Monty and ask her out. Life is to short for "what ifs".
2006-09-17 15:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think that it is really normal to fall or feel something if both persons involved have the same interests & if they are compatible with each other..spending time with somebody & sharing things with them would make you get to know them even better & when you find comfort around them, that would be the time when feelings get even more deeper..if you really like the girl, there's nothing wrong with telling her how you feel..just don't be pushy about it & make sure that you won't make her feel uncomfy around you..Ã
2006-09-17 15:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by -= Qtee =- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause there's this feeling of love which comes between them
n breaks their friendship forming a new bond called love....YEAH IT'S POSSIBLE IN SOME CASES 4 BOYS N GIRLS 2 B FRENDZ I'VE SEEN SO MANY OF THEM..
2006-09-17 15:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by rd22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋