He died recently and now I feel like crap, I would like to return it or something, who should I give it to, and what should I say?
2006-09-17 07:52:18 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And before everyone asks me why, I stole it to buy an ionic breeze
2006-09-17 07:55:25 · update #1
Return it. Put it in an envelope and leave it on his dresser drawer without a note.
How surprised he will be!
2006-09-17 08:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am sorry to hear that your grandfather has just died.
I know you are probably plagued by guilt at the moment for this and any other bad things that you have done but remember - your relationship with your grandfather was built over a lifetime. I am sure what your grandfather thought about you were the good things. Being a grandfather usually means you have a bit more perspective on the follies and mistakes of youth and judge them less harshly.
He will have know you would become a good man who would regret this foolish mistake. - As is demonstrated by your remorse now. You cannot undo what you have done but by becoming a better man because of it you are honouring your grandfather's memory.
It is up to you whether you tell your family now. I would recommend you give the money to charity or to another family member you know who could use the money. You might find telling people in your family helps you get over what you have done and move on.
During a life time we have all said things, or did things to people we love that we later found shameful and awful. However that is never the sum of our relationships. What lasts over everything is the love we had for the people that loved us and the people we will love in the future.
I admire your honesty very much.
2006-09-17 07:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Bebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could honor your grandfather in a special way with that money. Why don't you spend the same amount of money you stole from him and buy something to put on his gravesite. Buy something that is honoring him and that could be on the gravesite throughout the years to come. If you gave the money to family it really wouldn't be right because your grandfather is not here, and if you think about it he's the one you stole from not them. It would just be extra money in someone's pocket. Do something for your grandfather even though he's no longer here. Atleast you would have done something honorable and decent when it's all over with.
2006-09-17 08:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remorse is valuable. Once your really in touch with the wrongness, and resolve to resist that kind of temptation in the future, it may be that you've truly learned a lesson. It hurts not only the violated when trust is violated (you're mucking around with your own character development).
Invest in someone else's welfare as a gift, if purging your conscience will be the result. Then go forward with this notion:
"I don't want nothin' that don't belong to me".
2006-09-17 08:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happened, and feeling like 'crap ' about it isn't going to make it better.
But what you can do about it is using the money for something positive like charity. i believe everyone should donate at least abit and dont think your grandfather or anybody else would have problems donating.
my point is, give the money to people that need it more than you instead of buying smth luxurious for yourself
:)
2006-09-17 07:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your grandmother is alive you need to sit down with her and let her know that you did and for whwt reason. She might even know that you did . perhaps your grandfather also knew it before he died. someone just maybe waiting for you to admit it to them.
If you feel that bad now,then take the money and give it to something in his
name although that still does not make it right.
your memories of this will keep coming back to you for doing this
2006-09-17 08:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should pay the money back. write your granpa a check and take it to the gravesite. i'd then dig a little hole at the foot of the grave and put the check there. cover it up.
now, granpa has his money and you've got your friggin ionic breeze and alls right with the world.
i can't believe you'd steal from your family to buy one of those stupid ionic breezes! i could maybe understand stealing from him to buy pot or booze or even a hooker----but an ionic breeze?
you're not only a loser----you're a lame loser.
2006-09-17 08:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its too late to give it back now.
Anyway, it didnt hurt him too much, didnt go hungry or bankrupt did he? Its really not a lot of money in the scale of things.
You were wrong to do it but the way grandparents love their grandkids i dont think he would be angry.
If my son did that to me I would laugh it off but make sure he didnt do it again.
You've 'confessed' to us all, now move on and forget it but dont do it again.
2006-09-17 08:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is dead and u want 2 pay him back 4 want u did then buy or let the ppl that work in the cemitary barry the $350 with him or buy something thats worth $350 and have them barry it with him. Hey its just a thought.
2006-09-17 07:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by DMR 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can you give it to your grandmother? Maybe put it in an envelop and drop it off without your name on it. Its very honerable of you for wanting to return it. We all make mistakes but its a mature and smart person that admits and learns from them. Good luck.
2006-09-17 07:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he have a favorite charity?
If not then he had to have some kinds of interests. Maybe you could determine a charity to give $350 to in his honor from his interests.
2006-09-17 07:54:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋