hey im 14 and a few weeks ago i messed around with a guy and i have not had my period in 10 days after when i was supposed to have it..I took a prenancy test...very clear positive any mothers have advice for me (you can e-mail if u would like)
2006-09-17 06:50:34 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
also tips on how to tell the guy we never really went out or anything we just kinda had sex sooo it will be really bad..Could it be another guy? the last time i hade sex was about4 weeks ago before the random guy
2006-09-17 06:56:30 · update #1
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It's too bad - you are in a bad situation, and need to deal with this. Reprimands about having sex are not the issue here. This is a child having a child. You need to reach out to an adult, and there are plenty of organizations around. I don't know where you are from, but look in a phone book for United Way, or women's' shelter - they usually go by the name of something like Mary's House or whatever. Call the Dr's office or any church and ask for a name for someone to help, if you're shy. Honestly, not everyone in this world will FLIP OUT at you. A good adult will help you deal with this problem.
You do need to make sure that you are not smoking, drinking alcohol or doing drugs - that WILL come back to haunt you. There are plenty of people who would give their arm for a baby - I am one. Think about adoption - it doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a smart person. Make a right choice.
Keep us updated on what's going on.
2006-09-17 08:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore all the bad comments your getting and concentrate on the positive advice.
Sit down and talk to your parents, dont be afraid to ask for help, or to look at all the options that are out there and that can include keeping the baby. Just talk them through with people who care about you and make up your own mind so you dont have any regrets in the future.
If your not sure of the paternity this can be checked later.
Your decision is confidential and you dont have to share it with the world but if you decide to keep the baby the prospective fathers should be in the know. I suggest having someone with you for support when you tell them. All the best.
2006-09-17 08:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by FayeD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very hard to get a positive pregnancy test unless you are really pregnant, since the test is checking for the hormones released when you become pregnant and obviously if the hormones are there then you must be pregnant. I suggest talking to an adult that you trust, either your parents or someone else. I went to school with a girl that got pregnant when she was 14 and it wasn't easy but she kept the baby and made it work or you could opt for adoption. there are things called open adoption when you can still be in the babies life if that is something that would make it easier to give up the baby. Good luck.
2006-09-17 08:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you only 14 and your messing around with many random guys, that's ricidulous. Are you plannin on keepin the child, or considerin adoption, or abortion????
Secondly, your info is a bit fade but you could be possibly pregnant or just the pregnancy test was wrong.
I would take a couple more tests just to see. I had to take FIVE altogether, one showed up negative and the other four showed up positive.
Also advice to tell the guy, you guys are young and dumb, he will not stick around UNLESS his parents tell him so. He might not even talk to you after you tell him.
But then again I may be wrong, he may grow some balls and decide to mature, and take care of his child.
After you take a few more tests and they all stilll show up positive you'll need to tell the guy and your parents immidiatley.
So that way you and him can solve something up and your parents can get you to a doctor to get checked.
2006-09-17 07:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by [Pro♥Mom] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that you may be pregnant. 14 is to young to be having sex. You should get your mom to take you to the doctor though. Talk to her calmly and don't rush it. tell her in bits so she's able to accept it. Throwing it all at her at once will not help. You also need to decide if you'd like to keep the kid. Abortion is a last option for me especially as a christian. we're against it but allow adoption of the child. It would probably be the best but only if the father doesn't want anything to do with him/her. You should remember that it's a human life you're dealing with and if you can't kill a child you've held in your arms you shouldn't kill one growing inside you. So talk to your mom... then talk to the guy and make a choice. Think carefully about it cuz it's your life and no one elses. Oh and get some protection.
2006-09-17 07:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by daixyflexi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me first tell you what my reaction would be if my daughter came home to tell me she's in the same situation as you assume you are finding yourself.
First, I would be stunned, a little taken aback. But I would be grateful that she thought enough of our relationship that she could come and tell me.
Second, concerned that she is now looking at being a mother at such a young age, if that was her choice. I know first hand what it is to be a teenage mother.
Thirdly, I would take her to see a doctor to make absolute sure it is a positive result.
Fourth, I would sit down and talk to her about her options, the same way my mother did. It felt good to let some of the fear out.
Stressful enough with the decisions to make, let alone keeping the secret and risking the child's health, not to mention your own.
I know this is going to be the most frightful experience you may possibly come against, but tell your mom. You are going to need her. She will not necessarily like what you are about to tell her, but together the two of you will overcome. Remember you are still her baby and you always will be no matter what age.
It's scary enough being pregnant as an adult nevermind as a young person. You are going to go through alot of changes and you will look at life with a different perspective, expect to grow as a person. Take this time to look at life and really see what you want out of it. Take one day at a time darling, it will all work out no matter what your choice is, but be strong in making the choices.
Lean on your family, that is what they are there for.
I hope all works out for you. Take care of yourself.
2006-09-17 07:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Darling. You are 14, pregnant, not too clear on who the father is. You are going to have the most epic life. I hope you have a strong support system.
The only clear answer I can give you is put the baby up for adoption. It's a tough decision, but it will be well worth it for you and the baby to have a better life.
2006-09-17 07:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by mindrizzle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone makes mistakes. I did and i am now 38. You can make a good mom . Its going to be hard. First talk to your mom. I f she offers you now help find preggancy center and go get a test from them there free and have counciling and can help you get medicade and food stamps and wic. and set you up with a good docter.. you need to decide wither to keep the baby . this is the most important chose you will make. I now have seven children 6 are girls and one is a boy. make sure you stay in school. free daycare is available to you. and go to college your baby will not stop you. its just a little harder but you can do it.tell you docter everything he will answer you and you can contact me if you need to talk. you are going to be strong and do everything for your child now. and school is important so you can provide. when you give birth yes it will hurt but it will be a pain soon forgoten , and always tell your child that they were no mistakes they just came into your life a little earler than expected . but be sure to tell them how hard it was to provide for them and keep talking to them so they dont have to go threw the journey you will. but i promise it will be worth it. take care
2006-09-17 08:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by katburger07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yall need to be more compassionate to her. She is reaching out. Sure, she might have made a mistake, and abortion is not the answer neither is putting the baby in a dumpster.....it is a life!
Along with what I have emailed you, you need to talk to your mom. It won't be a fun thing to do, but she loves you and will do what is right for you. I would talk to her before I would talk to the guy. If it is confirmed to be positive, than yall will have to make decisions. If it is just a scare, than you need to definitely abstain from sex. There is plenty of time for sex in your life. Just because you have been active prior to this doesn't mean you have to keep doing it, and it doesn't mean that you have ruined your life.
2006-09-17 07:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry but i usually wouldn't be mean about this,but what you did was a bad move,and you do need discipline for not thinking twice about messing with a guy. you might of thinked twice but obviously you didnt think right. If you fell for those tricks about trust,then you messed up badly. or if he was just some one night stand then im going to consider you as a h o e,especially at 14.You need to start taking responsibility toward your actions,enough bi t ch in at you.
so what you need to do is tell your mom,thats about the best luck your going to get. don't try doing things on your own with this situation because thats how you got in this mess in the first place,not making good choices. After you tell an adult or some one you live with get to the doctor as soon as possible.
2006-09-17 06:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by destiny B 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋