A girl has hasn't had sex with a guy in two years....the reason for no sex was because they were'nt together. He says he has'nt had sex with anyone else....They broke up partly for not spending much time together. He's in a relationship with her again after a year and a half break up... but he still does'nt spend time with her but he does'nt really take her anywhere other than your average restaurant on special occasions and to the movies at night. He's been pursuing her since she was 14 years old and he was 19. He took her virginity. Will a guy hang on to a girl if he knows he's the only guy that has ever had sex with her and can a guy go 2 years with no sex? He's 27, she's 22. They've previously been in a relationship for 3 years started when she was 16 and he was 21.
2006-09-17 06:44:42 · 11 answers · asked by datgagirl87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although a man CAN go 2 years (and more) without sex, it is a RARE one who actually does.
Based on your description of the circumstances, it seems that the guy is unlikely to have been going without. When he's not with the 22 year old, it's because he's with someone else.
Certainly, a guy will hang on to a girl he knows he's been the only one for. A guy will hang on to a girl he HASN't been the only one for! And that doesn't necessarily mean he's not having sex with someone else when he's not with her; because a guy will ALSO get away with whatever a girl LETS him (if u catch my drift).
2006-09-17 06:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an unhealthy relationship. The guy sounds like Humbert Humbert, and she should get away from him.
But yes guys can go two years without sex though she shouldn't trust this guy if he's not spending much time with her, if he doesn't take her anyway special she needs to be assertive about what she wants, and if he's not willing to do that, she can find someone else.
Plus it's been 8 years on and off, it's not going to get better. It's almost like he treats her like a toy. Someone who's there for him when he feels like it.
But really? A 19 year old pursuing a 14 year old? A 21 year old dating a 16 year old? This guy has serious problems. The girl, too, but not as bad, she was young and probably taken advantage of, intrigued by the "older 'man'" maybe, and not ready for the sort of relationship he was.
2006-09-17 06:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the guy is more interested in being with a former virgin with only one sexual partner than being with her for who she is. The fact that he's been pursuing her ever since he was an adult and she was 14 is a little odd. I'd think it would be really hard for a guy to go 2 years without sex, but he sounds like a real loser so I guess he could have spent the time playing Warhammer and watching scrambled porn.
2006-09-17 06:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Rainier 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is yes/no/maybe/don't know.
the person you should really be asking is your boyfriend. men can go years without, yes - some of them. some others think they have to have sex three times a day - all people are different.
don't pressure him - he may be going through a temporary problem with one of his sexual organs - the obvious one or even the most important one of all - you have one of those too - all of us do. that thing between our ears.
stop going to movies - you can't talk to each other and if you try some (you-know-what) in the aisle behind will "STFU" you.
Go for walks on empty beaches late at night where there's nothing else to do but talk - you need to talk.
2006-09-17 07:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the 2nd time I had sex it took 2 years until I had it a 3rd time.
2006-09-17 06:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by gunslinger_2727 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the man has definetely got bored with the girl.He's taking the girl for granted.This happens many times. They should get separated again and after few weeks, they should see if they still really want to return. If there is any love left, the boy should return. otherwise the girl can move ahead.
2006-09-17 06:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this story if fill of b/s many things about no sex for 2 years and no sex with anyone else, this is all to complicated, sounds to me that your friend needs to works things out herself. i f she believes that he not been with any other girl (right) and he wants to believe that she has nit been with another guy (right) well then let them get together on their own. Stay out of it. If you're talking about you as the "Girl" then believe him if you want to and visa versa.
2006-09-17 06:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that this guy is taking this girl for a ride.If he really loved her he would have married her by now.I feel that he is taking advantage of her and using her.I am sure he will never marry her and he must be having a girl whom he proposes to marry.In her own interest she should leave him and get married to some other man.
2006-09-17 06:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by sweet smell -removes bad oder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,some guys will take the responsilbilities, BUT not all.....
Yes,he can go on for more than 2 years without sex with YOU But not with other girls??Who knows what the heck he does out there...
Go check it out...
2006-09-17 06:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by eZY jOHn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily, he might meet someone else.
2006-09-17 06:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋