Extra marital relationships are the order of the day. Nobody minds it these days.
2006-09-17 05:57:41 · 44 answers · asked by TANISH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you don't want to be together then why are you?
2006-09-17 05:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's not that great to be unfaithful to each other. I mean, especially if you both know that you're cheating on one another, then what's the point in even being married?
I find it as though you both have no, if any, interest in each other anymore if you're cheating.
The most I could say for this is if you want to carry through with this marriage, try seeing a marriage counselor.
If you don't want to continue with the marriage anymore, then let your wife know why, and since she's cheating as well, she will most likely understand.
2006-09-17 06:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that fact that you are asking about it already says that even if you are brushing it off it bothers you. And it should you are in a life long commitment with somebody. It should not be taken lightly by either parties. What does it say about your relationship if you both are accepting of another person being intimate with your spouse? I am not a swinger so I don't understand that lifestyle and how it works. That is what your situation sounds like to me. I hope that you both honestly don't feel like this is okay and are able to indentify why you allowed this behavior to happen. If you love her, let her know because it is bothering you enough to put it online. At least part of you knows its wrong and cares enough, so I think there is hope.
2006-09-17 06:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by CNKCKFIL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The two of you are fooling yourselves and the only ones that are going to be hurt are each other. If you do not satisfy one another try something NEW together, but it selfish to go outside the marriage to seek satisfaction. Maybe there is a deeper issue that the two of you are avoiding outside of having extra marital relations.
2006-09-17 15:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I would mind if my husband had an affair and visa versa. Why are you and your wife married? It's called adultery what you both are doing. You both need to be separated, legally and get this out of your system. If neither one of you can't get it out of your system then get a divorce.You both are disrespecting one another. What if you got another woman pregnant? What if your wife got pregnant by another man? Then what? Not tell the child the truth? Not fair on the child.
2006-09-17 06:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come you are pretending you know nothing about it...if you both know that each other is cheating then you and your wife should be open about it.
And to your statement below..no one minds? are you kidding me? Obviously you and your wife don't mind but there are others out there who do mind.
2006-09-17 11:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by pepsigrlfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand the reasoning of your Q. If that's your lifestyle, then more power to you. However, what is the pt of being married if you are not being faithful to each other? Also, are you two having sex? I hope you guys are protected! Also, what if your wife finds out she is pregnant one day? God bless.
2006-09-17 08:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to get a divorce. Talk with your wife about if you really still love her and if she really still loves you. Since I'm guessing both answers are no's, get a divorce, then legally fool around.
2006-09-17 06:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ £.O.V.€. ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we do!
What's the point of being married to your wife, if you're not going to be committed to each other an no one else?!?!
Honestly, as a married person, this is highly offensive to me. I took my vows very seriously, and find it insulting that you can't do the same.
2006-09-19 09:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mind it. I would not cheat on my husband. It comes down to respect -- obviously, you and your wife lack that for each other. How sad.
2006-09-17 07:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating,,,hum do you still love each other? ..and yes cpls mind if the other is cheating,, for women its the number 1 reason we do it is cause our spouses do it,,,maybe you should talk about where your relationship is going and if you wanna stay married,,,if you do and still want to see otheres then maybe you should do it as a cpl..like swingers that way theres no issues of cheating
2006-09-17 06:03:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋