I found out my bf watches porn on the internet at his house, and gets off on it. i dont know if im so keen on him watching it. i know i cant stop him, but it feels weird to me. I mean i feel like hes not satisfied with me. We have sex, but probably not as much as we hope, for different reasons eg - we both live at home, and dont have the time or space, and cant take our time on it, and because we rush it, i hurt coz im not as "ready" as i should be. so we sometimes have to stop. also at his house his mum just walks into his room!! So were not as up for it as people our age should be (21 and 23). So when we dont engage in sex etc, he goes home and w*nks over porn. am i reading too much into this? i know every bloke does it, but i dont feel like he wants to be with me, but rather a computer screen and hes getting off on strangers! help!
2006-09-17 05:54:23 · 21 answers · asked by ms_jaffa_cake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust me, he definitely likes you over the porn. I'm a guy and I know. Any guy can tell you that the real thing is way better than a computer. I wont tell you not to worry about it but if it bothers you that much, make him choose.
2006-09-17 05:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by 1* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah the age old female question: Whats with the porn. Nothing, nothing is wrong. Every man watches it, every man beats the meat regardless of married or not. Its just a good relaxer, no pressure to please anyone, feels real good and quick. You'll never be able to stop him because its just something we do. It doesnt mean your not good in bed or anything like that. Its just a part of life. If you try to restrict him on it, he'll do it more
2006-09-17 12:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by You_dumb_bastard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only solution is to give him enough satisfaction so he doesn't need to alleviate himself when you're not there.
This is a perfectly normal situation. Men like to be satisfied every day, at least once. If you are not doing that, he'll do it himself.
He's most probably thinking about you while he's doing the deed, so don't be annoyed about it.
Don't tell me that you don't satisfy yourself when you feel the need.
He just likes visual stimulus as well.
2006-09-17 13:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by savs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what anybody says, porn is NOT a good thing!
It desentizes you to people of the opposite sex and teaches you to be selfish. Over time, it's gonna be very hard for him to get off on a REAL LIFE female.
He's giving into his LUST. Sex is supposed to be about LOVE. So yeah anyways. You all can tell I'm pretty conservative but whatever. The website www.porn-free.org gives a lot of good insight on porn addiction.
And yes, I used to be addicted to be porn.
2006-09-17 12:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Rivrav 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i think that you may be over reacting here! porn is natural (depending on the type of porn mind you), ok, watching porn is natural, why don't you watch it WITH him and you may be suprised!! getting off on strangers is perfectly ok, i wouldnt feel left out if my partner was watching porn....lighten up a little.
2006-09-17 12:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by The Banshee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with porn. Me and my guy watch it all the time together.
2006-09-17 18:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Megan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with porn or a partner looking at it, all guys do.
2006-09-17 13:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kev's Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I watch porn, it's not big deal your partner watching. They all do it wether in a relationship or not.
2006-09-17 13:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ju-C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is no good. For my experence. I'm got divorced for the same reason, when i was with him he made me fell like I wasn't a woman, like he didn't need me. but it is serious becarefull... (sorry for my spelling) but any ways if you need talk to sombody I'm here
2006-09-17 13:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by veronica m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just the next time u have sex....perform a lil sexy dance naked and tell him to choose between u and the porn!!
2006-09-17 12:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by sweetcheex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋