She is not to thrilled her dad is seeing someone. Makes it difficult for all of us to do things together. He has 2 daughters and I have one son. All around the same age. What can we do to make this easier for her, so we can start combining our lives?
2006-09-17 05:50:04 · 11 answers · asked by Happily in love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask THE GIRLS if you can take them to ______(where-ever they want to go) without their dad. BELIEVE ME. Leave your son home with your boyfriend. AND don't try to act like their parent. You will have to send them the message that you just want to be their friend. Think about it. You think they want 2 moms. No! But to have a friend that is a grown person, especially who can get their dad to do let them do things with you that normally they couldn't do at all. Well, that's priceless. Take them out as often as you or they want, so that y'all get use to each other. Then as they mature about the situation, it will be soooo much easier to go out as a family. And never tell them "I'm not trying to replace your mom" But do remind them that you like spending time with them! Good Luck:)
2006-09-17 06:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an intention of marriying your bf, you should start. I mean I undertand that his daughter is not thrilled, if my dad was dating some one besides my mother I would be ticked off. She will get used to the idea, try to be very nice to her, and maybe try to do some program where you and ur son can bond with the two daughters, may be she will realize that it isnt bad
2006-09-17 05:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you must not want to show favoritism, and I am sure once you sit your son down he will understand, but take this little girl out and spend some time alone with her, you need to form a bond, it is hard for a fourteen year old to see her Dad with someone else, and she is feeling jealous anyway, show what kind of person you want her to come to know, when she gets to the point of Trusting you, you won't be able to get her to leave you alone. Good luck.
2006-09-17 05:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It's his job to do most of the talking with his girls.
2. Go for pedicures with his girls. Tell them that you have no intention of being a "mom" right now, but you truly care about their lives and you're there for them if they need anything. Hopefully you can all start as friends.
3. Don't invade their space more than necessary. If you're on their couch all the time, it might be invasive. Have him come to your place at least 50% of the time.
Good luck
2006-09-17 05:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by ja3po 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its a funny age thats the biggest problem. at that age they r rebellious as is and the fact that u r dating her dad it makes it worse. try to talk to his other daughter and see if she can explain her sister.
see she thinks her dad is betraying her by dating u, so she doesnt quite trsut him.
the only one i think that can help is the sister cause they r both ib the same situation.
and make sure that she doesnt have a crush on ur son. that also can be a reason cause maybe she wants to date him and with both of u ating they cant!
best of luck
2006-09-17 05:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my children did not accept my boyfriend (now husband) either at that age but now 5 years later and lots of love and support they now call him "dad" i told my kids that i spent many years doing what was best for them now it's time to do what is best for me (and the family). you and boyfriend must stick together and do not let the kids come between you. my kids did not get the chance to play the parent on parent game because the lines of communication between the adults were always open.
2006-09-17 06:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is a difficult age...especially for a girl. Give her time, don't force her to accpet the situation...that'll make it worse. She'll come to accept it if you let her in her own way. Just keep showing her how much you care for all involved.
2006-09-17 05:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by Gwen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her some time to adjust to you...spend some time with her while not imposing yourself on her!! Try to be more of a friend than a mother figure!!! If she still doesn't accept you...well, maybe its time to end the relationship!!! Because, I know this sounds harsh, but eventually, what matters most to boyfreind is his daughter's happiness!!
2006-09-17 05:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try suggesting a girls day out go get your nails done or go out for brunch. find ways to do fun girl things. she may feel that dad is trying to replace mom.. just be patient and things will be OK .
2006-09-17 05:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off and let her do her own thing.She needs time to adjust to this new life.If she doesn't ever warm up to you,she just won't accept the fact your dating her dad.It's life...
2006-09-17 05:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋