I have delt with my father's racism all my life by simply ignoring it. Race is not a problem with me. In the past, my brother has brought home a black girl and my father blew everything out of proportion. He didn't allow her back to the house and said very cruel and prejudice things to her. She ended up breaking up with my brother because she feared my father. I just wish that I could bring him home with me without my father doing the same to him. I love him and he loves me. I'm not sure if I should have my boyfriend make a good first impression, or have a talk with my father. To be honest, I don't know what to do. I don't talk with my father at all. We go weeks without saying a word to eachother whilst my mother and I talk everyday. Someone please give me a suggestion. Not bringing him home should not be an option here.
2006-09-17 05:45:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I suppose it would help that I have asked him hypothetical questions such as "if I came home with a black man what would you do?". He responded by saying that he'd call the cops on the man and say he was breaking and entering. He would then disown me and kick me out. His hatred for other races is horrifying. I can't support myself right now because I am in my last years of highschool and am saving for college. It would make me happy just to be able to have my boyfriend over. I have to hide him when my father comes home. It's degrading.
2006-09-17 06:41:27 · update #1
Well as long as it'd your fathers house in his home he will say what he pleases.. You will only end up hurting your bf by bringing him around such a small minded person and since his approval isn't important why not have a lunch date and invite your mother to met him and save all the grief your father would cause Good luck
2006-09-17 05:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a job, you could say that a really big job oppurtunity has arrives,andyou could say that your new boss(really your boyfriend)has invited you and you family to dinner. Of course, if your father is so rude that he won;t accept to eat at the same table, u must tell him he's offering you an outrageous sum of money. If your father than agrees, just tell the truth with a straight face and a firm eye>
2006-09-17 05:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer, but i will give you my opinion. Me as a father myself will love my daughter no mater what and i think you should not get you boyfriend to make a good impression . Because it seems like it is your father that has the problem not you. I would talk to your father and tell him if he respects you he will respect your decision to date your boyfriend. Try letting them meet in a public place.
2006-09-17 05:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by jk102570 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE TRY THIS FIRST: Tell your dad that you have a ----------------boyfriend (fill in a race) then say that you are always arguing, and he's a drunk, and say that you think he's a gay or something. Then wait 2 or 3 days and tell him you broke up with him and now you're seeing a sweet, honest, hard working guy who loves you. If your dad really loves you he'll be glad that you're happy and safe. It sucks that you have to lie, but some people are just too stupid to realize that love comes in all colors.
2006-09-17 05:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a costume shop and rent your b-friend a nazi uniform
your dad should like him then
2006-09-17 05:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Richie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in deep crap if your dad is a Serb.
2006-09-17 05:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋