Okay, Over the summer I worked at a summer camp, and I had this fling with a girl from Madrid Spain. Yes I did have a girlfriend..but see..because of her religion and our parents our relationship was secret. We've been dating for two and a half years..and we have not been on a date..the only time we could see each other was at school. So do you think I made the right choice. And now all we have been doing is fight..how can I make this immature game stop??
2006-09-17 05:36:40 · 16 answers · asked by Aaron I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. You don't really have a girlfriend if you've never been on a date. You have a good friend that you call "girlfriend."
2. Tell your "girlfriend" that you met someone at camp, and your feelings for her made you feel confused.
3. Explain that the secret relationship thing isn't working for you anymore, and if she can forgive your fling, then hopefully you can go forward with a real relationship. If not, maybe it's time to move on. (Hopefully this sounds more mature)
2006-09-17 05:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by ja3po 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the summer fling, it's irrelevant because you don't really have a girl friend until you resolve some important issues. Would either of you consider changing to the others religion? If you should marry and have children different religions will cause many problems. Should either of you change religions what will that persons family do? This immature game will not stop until you both agree on one religion and have an open discussion about any other issues you are fighting about. Half of all marriages end in divorce. Don't be one of them.
2006-09-17 05:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by dizdoo11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have really been fighting for so long, maybe you should sit down once and for all and get out everything in the open. Mostly stuff like this happens because of lack of communication. I have had the same problem too. If she cannot understand you at all then you should consider dumping her. After all, there is no use of trying to get something you cant have. And no, your choice was correct however you didnt inform your girlfriend which, I think, is wrong.
2006-09-17 05:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by tush_dante 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not been dating if you were never on a date. The only time you see each other is in school? That seems like you are school buddies. It also seem as though you all want a relationshiop. You have to be open and honest. Talk with each other and explore your options. If your decision is to be with each other talk to your parents. True love can never be stopped.
2006-09-17 05:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really dating if you never went out on a date? My advice would be to break up, you guys are too young and unable to really be a couple anyhow due to the parent situation. Five minute conversations between classes that are argumentative would not be my choice. Good Luck!!
2006-09-17 05:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U hav been datin...and u have not been on a date...lol..dat makes no sense. But anyways....if u love her and like being with her...i think u shud stay with her ignorin de religion and ur parents issue. So u fight now...umm if u rnt happy with de relationship...be honest 2 urself and de girl and tell her dat u rnt happy in de relationship and break up with her. I am sure she will understand.
2006-09-17 05:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Squall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kids, i swear. Dude, u cheated on her, which means you really dont like her as much as you think. Plus, only seeing her at school is dumb because your not getting what you need. take a break from her and date other people and if you still want her, try again
2006-09-17 05:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by You_dumb_bastard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not the dark ages...that religous reason for not see her is crap......they are controlling her...find you a real girl friend and go on a real date...if you are fighting with her and you only see her doing school...well exactly what do you think you will be doing if you do get together..living with her family....controlling when you can and can not have sex with her or better yet tell you when you should have a baby
2006-09-17 05:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up, obviously the girl is being controlled by her parents and hasn't matured yet....why should you suffer too...find someone who has more freedom and enjoy your life, your only young once and before long your youth will fade don't waste your time her family will never change it's all cultural...please move on.....you will be so much happier...I did and I am!
2006-09-17 05:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by billyboysblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either of you shud understand this problem sweet hearts.. If she cannot then you adjust and go according to her. Make her understand. Only wen of u makes the other comfortable everything will workout.
2006-09-17 05:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋