i never felt the need for another child, until now, after seeing my sis have her second one last year. she was only 31 at the time of delivery, both her pregnancies & deliveries being normal. my son never asked for a sibling, but does feel hurt a bit after seeing his cousin having a baby sis. i would love to have a cute little chubby girl of my own, & i know that my husband would love too..
i did go to the doc for a check up, she said everything was normal, except for 2-3 small fibroids, that could give me some pain during the pregnancy.
i thought the urge to have one more will slowly die down, but hasn't & is making me feel miserable for the past 7-8 months!
what do i do?
2006-09-17 05:26:04 · 11 answers · asked by neeru 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
previus cs is not a contraindication for pregnancy! 38 years old is not yet a criteria for high risk! below 18 and above 40 is! go girl make that baby!
2006-09-17 05:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by lisette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You certainly are 'inclined" to have another child, even aside from the influences of your sister and your son.
First question: How would dad feel about it? It's important that he's in favor of it, or at least, willing to understand your point of view and be supportive of it.
If you are going to try for a second child, don't let another day go by. You are in your late 30s and it's becoming a "do it or forget it" senario.
Don't be concerned about another C-section. If that's the way it would go, then so be it. It's no big deal.
I would be somewhat concerned about the fibroids, and so, if you become pregnant you will need to keep in very close contact with your OB-GYN, of course.
I had my children naturally and I had my last child at age 38. She was the easiest going baby of all of them. She is healthy, happy, intelligent, and in college. She is very insightful and a wonderful, loving daughter.
Trying immediately for another child is not only a matter of the "lateness" of having a child, it's also because the fact that it's not easy to raise a teenager when you're in your 60s; and, most importantly, we must keep in mind that as time goes by there is an increasing risk of Downes Syndrome in a child.
In addition, because your aon was born about 14 years ago, realize that a second child will "socially" be another "only child". There is nothing "wrong" with this, at all, and in fact, an older brother of his age will be a further blessing to a younger sibling.
If you should decide to accept this "mission", realize that you will have a 50-50 chance of being blessed with either a daughter or another son. Also realize, as I suppose you do, every child is a gift no matter which gender.
All my best to you and your family.
2006-09-17 06:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Seneca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree a little with the woman a few lines aboove me: are you really ready for the lack of sleep, mid-night feedings, car-seats, and all the juggling and responsibilty that come with a 2nd child? Do you only want a baby because your Sister had one? Is it because she is getting attention now that she had a baby? Was is the real reason you want a new baby?
Well, it's your life and if you TRULY do want a 2nd baby for all the right reasons and your husband also wants a new baby--then GO FOR IT. Do it NOW before you get older, and before your fibroids get bigger. My aunt had her forst baby last year, and she had Fibroids--and she almost lost the baby. It was very, very painful for her because the baby was pressing up agianst the fiboroids..She dealt with the pain--and she had a healthy baby boy.
You must also remember that you mught have a Little Boy, instead of a girl--how would you feel about that? Are you in a place in your life where you could deal with a sick child? I'm a Teacher, and I see sick and diabled children everyday with autism to all kinds of problems. Are you and your husband prepared for that?
What does your husband say? Does he want a 2nd baby now at this stage in life? Will he help you with all the responsibilties? You know, many mothers today feel overwhelmed because the responsibilty tends to fall completely on the mother's shoulders. You need to have a long talk and see if he is on the Same Page as you. Look before you leap.
Peace
2006-09-17 05:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go ahead and try I have had two c-sections and I am still ok to have more kids since you are 38 you will need to have more tests taken probably but I dont see anything wrong with it my Grandma had a child 40 - 45 (22 years ago ) and she had no difficulties . wanting another child will not go away . Good luck
2006-09-17 05:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by brandi.smiles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actual have 4 young ones have had 3 c-sections. My final grew to become into 6 months in the past and that i got here abode to look after the recent toddler, a a million twelve months previous, a 4 twelve months previous and a 5 twelve months previous. My mom helped for a week and then i grew to become into on my own. It grew to become into my journey that the 2nd (and nil.33) c-sections have been way much less confusing to recover from than the 1st. I purely took it ordinary, did no longer sparkling too lots and issues have been incredibly purely positive. the toughest section is protecting the babies from bumping you interior the tummy, yet when I advised them to no longer, they have been sturdy approximately it. you would be ok!
2016-10-01 01:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by bugenhagen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about the cute little one you could have and start thinking if you can handle the lack of sleep and responsibility having a baby can bring. Your son thinks his cousin is cute, thats great, but he doesnt know what a new baby in his house will bring. Does he realize that all your attention will be focused on the new baby? I doubt he has thought of this. You should.
2006-09-17 05:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want another child and can handle raising it then go for it. My mother had a c-section at 23 and had me at 37 my brother and i are great friends. Just remember you have a little helper in your son, if you train him right. Just don't forget to have one on one time with him if you do have another child.
2006-09-17 05:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by dblakaysmom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go ahead and have the new baby. i had 4 kids, #2 and #4 by c-section other 2 by "normal ways" it takes alittle longer to heal afterwards because of your age but it's worth it. just have your doctor keep a closer eye on you then younger mothers. enjoy the new family member when they (he /or she) come
2006-09-17 05:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by montanamom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i THINK THAT ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE .AND YOU SHOULD GO AHEAD AND TRY YOU CAN HAVE THE BABY NATURAL AFTER A C SECTION ,38 YRS OLD IS NOT OLD .ADOPTION CAN BE AN OPTION TOO!
2006-09-17 05:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Jho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the doc says you're healthy enough and your husband/sig. other is agreeable, GO FOR IT!
2006-09-17 05:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by zavarob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋