What do you do if a guy didn't call you?

Question

What if he seemed like he really liked you, making lunch for you, and getting you to come on an ambulance ride-a-long? He knows I have his number, but he said he would call ME sometime. The first time he said he'd call, a week passed and he didn't, but that Friday he came in and we had a good time together (or what I thought was a good time). He said he'd call me afterwards. It's been another week.

I'm tempted to text message him to ask if he's okay, but I don't know if I should do that or not. I have a semi-date with another guy tonight and I'm concerned that this will affect me later on in life. I already was affected by another guy I liked...he's getting married now and it made me feel like crap for the longest time. I'm worried I'll get into a relationship with somebody and then find out this guy is getting married, and find out if I'd called or something it might have worked out with us. I hate having regrets.

I'm just so confused. Can someone please give me some advice?

Well, thing is, I met him at work, but I had to quit my job. So he knows he'll never see me again.

Answer 1

Have you ever read the book, He's Just Not That Into You?? If not, buy it!!!

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=br_ss_hs/102-0404889-7134526?platform=gurupa&url=index%3Dblended&keywords=he%27s+just+not+that+into+you

If he was really interested, he would give you some clue that he was interested. Maybe he is just really busy right now?? No, really. If he really wanted to call you, he would. I know that is rough to hear, but after years of personal experience of thinking that it was okay to call a guy I figured out that you can make every excuse in the book for a guy. In return, I found the man of my dreams that is into me. Good luck!!

Answer 2

Definitely don't text him. That seems more desperate than anything, especially if it says, "Everything o.k.?" Go on the date. It's only a semi-date and as long as you don't end the night in the bedroom, the date wouldn't affect your possibilities with ambulance guy. Don't call ambulance guy today if you have a date tonight. Call ambulance guy tomorrow (monday) evening and say, "Hey, just thinking about you. How are things?" Then, gauge his interest from his tone. If he doesn't say, "We should hang out," by the end of the call, move on. And it's perfectly o.k. to tell him, "I was thinking that things went well on the ride-along. How about dinner this week?" There are no regrets if YOU choose how to spend your time. Good luck.

Answer 3

First...let me get this straight: You think that if you are dating someone and all of a sudden he marries another woman, it is because you did not call him. Yet everything would have worked out between you two if only you had not let a few days go by without calling. COME ON !!Be Real about things.
I hate to be insensitive, but this guy that you like reminds me of guys that I used to know in the past before I blossomed into a wiser, grown woman. He doesn't seem to be making much time for you. He calls you only when he is ready to and feels like having some company. . He may even be spending free time with another girl or other girls since you and he have one of those call-ya-when-I-call-ya and see-ya-when-I-see-ya relationships. I think he's taking you for a ride-a-long alright. Sweety, stop waiting by the phone. Date the other guy and enjoy yourself. When you want a relationship with a guy and he AGREES that he wants to be in one with you two, you can always know if he means it--not just by what he says, but by the way that he backs it up with his actions. By the way, the guy that you like did say out of his own mouth that he would call you SOMETIME. I think his actions have been true to that so I can't say he really taking you for a ride. As a woman I hate to say this, but women tend to read between lines that do not need to be read between. Sometimes, we need to just accept that a guy means Exactly what he says. Sometimes things start off at this kind of pace in the beginning, because you only like (not love) each other and you are getting to know one another. But once the relationship has been established, Never settle for less than what you want just because you are afraid to be single, especially if you don't think you are asking too much.

Answer 4

If the guy doesn't call again by this Friday then cut your losses and move on its not your fault that the other guy moved on and got married that should show you that he was not interested in you in the 1st place and if this guy does the same thing don't sweat it someday you'll meet a guy that will call you back and will want to go out with you again and again so hang in there my friend

Answer 5

Whatever you do, don't ask him if he's okay.....that makes it seem like he has an obligation to call you and there must be something wrong if he hasn't. It'd probably have the opposite effect that you want it to have.
Text him a joke or something cute, but don't call. See what happens.

Answer 6

DONT CALL HIM who cares there are to many fish in the sea to be woried about this one. Anyways he isnt the one for you sweetie .Go out and have a good time with this other guy or even go out with your friends and have a fun time.

Answer 7

After your date tonight, if he still hasn't called you I would call or text message him. Just to make sure things are ok. If he doesn't reply when you text message him call him and see what is going on.

Answer 8

It sorta seems he is like the player type. Guys can seem SO nice and make you believe they are the greatest thing. You can try to ask him if he's ok and if he still acts like this, i say forget about him and move on :]

Answer 9

yeahh uhh dont wait on him go out and find other ppl because if hes interested hed def call u maybe he doesnt want to lead u on by calllin u so maybe hes lookin for friendship rather than a relationship

Answer 10

You are worrying way too much about relationships, lighten up and try to enjoy yourself.