I am an only child who lives with my amazing parents. The thing is although I don't always feel it I think I'm very lonely. I've taken to pretending I'm someone else, someone with lots of family, and talking to them. I just stand there and talk to thin air, pretending someones there. I'm so scared, I'm only 13 and I think I might be going crazy.
2006-09-17 04:18:26 · 32 answers · asked by be_true 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Honey, as a parent of a 13 year old boy - please speak with someone you really trust about this. It doesn't have to be your parents. Pretending to be someone is ok, but chances are you are very incredible and don't need to pretend to be anyone but yourself. Sometimes we just need a little boost and someone to confide in; someone to talk to. I don't think you are going crazy but lonely; and you really shouldn't have to be. We all talk to ourself sometimes - I'm 31 and I still do it! :) So don't be afraid - you are really not alone - if you want to message someone, feel free to send me one. 13 is a tough age - I've been there too and now my son is 13. Smile and be happy to be you, and remember, someone has smiled over and over because of you - it may sound crazy but it's true. You've been a blessing to someone maybe without realizing it.
2006-09-17 04:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by f1utterbyz75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not going mad at all, the fact is, by growing up in such an empty environment for 13 years of your life, has made you become used to be alone, and within a quiet atmosphere. Pretending to be that someone else will prove worse, because sooner or later you'll have to come to terms with that fact that it's not real. Try joining a local club or group, or hanging out at the local park or social area. You'll find it much easier to talk to people there, and as for being lonley, you never are. People are always here for you, be strong, and go make a good circle of friends that you deserve.
2006-09-17 04:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe :) 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I did the same thing. You have a very vibrant imagination, and you could take advantage of this by writing. Use your mind for you benefit.
I do think you are lonely though. I was lonely a lot as a teen so I understand where you are coming from. You have to take the first step and "be a friend". There is the corny saying, "If you want to get friends then be a friend".
You need to have "alone time " where you can write your thoughts and meditate/pray/sing/whatever, and you need to have social time where you can meet people, have fun, etc.
2006-09-17 04:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by okidoll821 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to sugar coat this- this doesn't sound normal. However, I don't think you're going mad, because you've admitted you are doing this voluntarily and you yourself think this is weird. So it's not madness. If you want friends, pretending to talk to people that aren't there is a sure fire way to make everyone around you run for the hills, and NOT want to talk to you, because they will definately think you're more than strange. LOL!!! If you think you really do have a problem, for heavens sake go tell your parents. You said they are amazing, so they will surely understand.
Not only is it weird that you talk to people that aren't there, it's a little dorky. Get a hobby and some friends! good luck!
2006-09-17 04:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by misteri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not going mad. You want to have more things to do, people and friends to talk to and interact with. First of all you can email me and I'll be happy to be an E- Pal if you want someone to listen. Second, but more importantly you need to make some more friends at school or church. Join a group or a sport at school.
I was an only child until I was 12 years old and couldn't wait to have a baby sister or brother. Then I WISHED I was an only child again until I was about 20!
2006-09-17 04:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Miss C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have friends that you can talk to? It's understandable that you may be lonely for more people in your family. Visit with a friend with lots of siblings and you will probably appreciate the quietness of your home. When you get these lonely feelings pick up a good book and read.....this is good for your imagination. Remember that you are not crazy. Take care and God Bless.
2006-09-17 04:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Rea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are definitely lonely. Have you no friends at school you can invite home or go to visit? You could join a youth club or something like that. I know what its like to be lonely, sometimes you can be in a room full of people and still feel it. You need people of your own age group because your growing up your family is no longer enough for you as it was when you were younger. But you are NOT crazy we all talk ourselves
2006-09-17 04:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by di 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your parents what your going through, you said they're amazing so I'm sure they'll understand what your going through. It sounds like you need to be around people a little more, why don't you try volunteering at an animal shelter or as a candy striper, try something with your parents permission to help you be around people more, you will feel better about yourself and make friends at the same time. Please talk to your mom and dad they will help, and find a place to volunteer they could help you find a place that suits you, they will know what your good at and help you make a decision. When you volunteer in your community you don't think about yourself as much and your confidence will really get better when your helping your community. Good luck, and your not going mad, I think you are lonely and a little bored.
2006-09-17 05:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Pearl N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're lonely, and that you need friends or family around you your own age with whom you can identify and interact. Fortunately you have the Internet which helps some, but nothing beats a real live person to talk to especially at 13 years of age. All I can suggest from here is that you try to make some friends at school &/or church.
Remember, the best way to make a friend is to be one :)
Good luck.
2006-09-17 04:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
However strange this may sound, I think you do it because deep down you want to feel crazy because it is a desperate way of trying to stop the confusion and distress you feel. You know you're doing it and you know it's not normal. It's a cry for help that won't work. It's not the way to help yourself, it can become a vicious circle that makes you feel worse about yourself.
I think that you should get involved in clubs with young people, sport, drama, voluntary, scouts/guides, anything. You needn't feel so distressed because there's nothing to be distressed about, just forget about making up extra family, focus on feeling happy and fulfilled, that's what life's about, learn to appreciate your parents, and respect yourself.
I don't know if what I said helps, but whatever you do, don't worry about it.
2006-09-17 04:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by jeffner1990 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋