My mom and I are having SERIOUS issues.One of the main things we fight a/b is her deciding that I HAVE to break up with my boyfriend. We've been together for 14 months and we are very much in love. He had a suicide attempt in July becuase he was very depressed and stressed out over family and money issues. It was a very scary time but he has been seeing a doctor and got on some meds. to help him. He has also had some problems in the past being disrespectfu w mom (i.e hanging up the phone on her and saying bad words in our house, rolling his eyes) but recently he wrote her a nice letter a/b how sorry he was and that a girl like me didn't deserve that and that he would change. My mom also doesn't like his mother very much, but I think that if he is willing to appologize he should be given a second chance. This isnt about his mother. Now, my mom is saying that she and I will go to a Dr. and he will get to decide if Im allowed to still be with him or not. What do you think he'll say
2006-09-17 04:12:19 · 14 answers · asked by jeffsgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 17 and the doctor we're talking about is a pyschologist....sorry i thought everyone could sort of figure that one out.
2006-09-17 04:36:01 · update #1
I think your mom should give him a second chance. I mean he is getting help from a doctor. and he appologized to her.
2006-09-17 04:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by tattoo junky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the doctor would also tell you to stay away from him.
This guy has issues that you don't need to be burdened with - and don't say it's not a burden because it is. He needs to straighten his life out FIRST before being able to commit to a long-term relationship. By forgiving him every time (disrespectful of your mother, past gr's, not facing problems, etc.) you are enabling him whether you mean to do that or not. He needs to see the consequences of his actions. Saying, "I'm sorry" is easy. Proving it is not. I'm not saying give up on him because people deserve a chance but ONLY if that have proved that they're trying to help themselves first. A written apology doesn't quite cut it.
Your mother wants what is best for you. Her heart and head is in the right place. She sees what you don't.
2006-09-17 11:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question until we got to the last sentence. What Dr.? Whose Dr.? How old are you? If your b/f tried to commit suicide does that not make you think that he might not be able to handle life on a day to day basis. He has some issues and he needs to deal with them. have you asked your mother why she wants you to stop seeing him? That is what you need to find out. Maybe she knows something that you do not know about him.
2006-09-17 11:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you could be getting in pretty deep here. Mental illness can be difficult to deal with and since you are not married I would consider all options even Moms.
If you are over 18 years of age you can make your own choices. If you are not yet 18 you should listen to your mom.
2006-09-17 11:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by dudeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, you will listen to your mother and the doctor. You are too young to have dated a guy for 14 months. Drop him, find a new b/f and have fun. This guy has issues and will have them for the rest of his life. You don't need that!
2006-09-17 11:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by wldaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guessing is your mom had written a script and the screen play will be done with the help of doctor. It’s going to be a pure drama in true life your mom is so clever in cheating you I bet doctor will act as a character in your moms drama, may be a mouth piece of your mom. Rather than listening to that foolish doctor you listen to your mom. OR arrange a doctor on your own take your mom to your doctor
2006-09-17 11:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by smartcamal1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well hun...he might just say yes.. or he might just say get outta my office with that BS. But i think if he is willing to appologize too i think he should be givin a second chance, it's only human. Parents just dont understand true love, but i think if they pulled their head outta their a s s's and wake up once n a while life would be just great! But yeha keep your head up, and pray to God for you guys to stay together and for your boyfriend not to pull a suicide attempt again. But i hope everythin works out! Good luck!
2006-09-17 11:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A doc cannot/should not give advice about your love life. But you need to see that your mom is just trying to protect you. She sees that regardless of your bf being on meds now, he isnt really stable...at least not yet. Youve got yourself in a difficult position. You cannot control who you are in love with. Tell mom you dont want to argue with her but you have to give him this chance to be better and try to leave it at that.
2006-09-17 11:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a set up to me. I am sure your mom has already consulted with the Doctor and told him what to say. And I have never heard of anyone taking there daughter to a doctor and let himj/her decide who there daughter should date. That is crazy
2006-09-17 11:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What sort of Doctor are we talking about?
2006-09-17 11:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋