Last night I asked my boyfriend to record the Katt Williams special for me because I don't have HBO. He told he couldnt and he didnt have any VCR tapes all of this without even getting out of bed to look. So I told him thats fine, I would call my grandmother and she would record it for me and I didnt need his favors. He felt bad and got out of bed and found a tape, and I told him No. But I told him that if I was someone else he would have jumped out of bed quickly looking for a tape and I reminded him of earlier in the day when he wanted me to burn some mixtapes for him and I didnt have any blank cd's and I went out and bought a pack of 100...enough for me and enough to burn for him. I didnt tell him "I dont have any cds. I cant do it." I went out and did it for him without thinking twice, then when I ask for something...he quick to tell me no. I wasnt trying to throw it in his face, but more remind him that i think he's selfish. Was that throwing it in his face?
2006-09-17 04:02:55 · 14 answers · asked by brittneyafoster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It pissed me off because if I was one of his stupid friends or his mother, sister or brother(all people who DO NOT do anything for him!!!)...he would have jumped to do it.
Whatever he wants, I do for him. Then I ask for something and I get a quick no. If I were his brother, he would have gotten a tape within 2 minutes and his brother treats him like crap and orders him around. I told him that at 28, he needs to start prioritizing......
2006-09-17 04:12:24 · update #1
Well personally I don't think it is, in my relationship I tried to put myself in your shoes, situations like that do come up, I see you attempting to communicate why it bothered you, and in my relationship, my husband and I talk about everything and I know he would have listened and taken my point into consideration, a bad way of communicating is saying hurtful untrue things when we get mad, and what you were doing is explaining your truth, which is what best friends do, when you are in a relationship, your first and foremost goal is to develop a "best friends" relationship. Best friends talk as well as listen. So don't feel bad. Although if at any time you get mad about something and you keep bringing it up.. THEN you may be throwing it in his face, that is the true meaning of throwing something in someones face, (never letting something go). Hope this helps
2006-09-17 04:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Mystic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, every once in a while we have to remind them of how we go out the way for them reguardless of how tired we are. Men are just selfish. Girl, start telling his *** no and stick to it so he can see how it feel and don't ask him to do anything. get other people to help you and maybe he'll start to feel less than a man that someone else have to do what he should be doing. Let him know "what you won't do, someone else will". Men that really care about you, won't like that statement!
2006-09-17 04:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lakenya P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have simply said "ok, thanks" when he felt bad and said he'd do it.
Guys are going to try to get out of something if they can, especially if a girl asks them to do it. Its no big deal, its a guy thing. You handled it fine up to then, simply not being dependent on him and saying you would have someone else do it. Then he has a choice and it sounds like he made the right choice.
Relationships with men are not fair or equal, they just don't work that way. However you can equalize things out by not being so ready to do anything he asks.
2006-09-17 04:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly yes I do think you were throwing it in his face. But GOOD FOR YOU. He needed that pointed out to him. He is being very selfish and lazy if you ask me so dont feel bad. I bet in the beginning of your relationship he would have jumped right up. Why? Because he was trying to impress you. Now he thinks oh I have her already I dont have to impress you. True colors are coming out it seems. Good luck girlfriend
2006-09-17 04:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a little. Everyone can be a little moody sometimes so maybe he was in a lazy or bad mood. It is okay just as long as it doesn't happen all the time. If he is like that a lot then you should consider how much he cares about you.
2006-09-17 04:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by jimmywalls1982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, this couldn't be any more petty. he's a guy, he was being lazy and didn't think it was that big a deal. yes he was wrong in a way but he did get off his lazy butt and look. don't take it so personal. if this is the only thing you have to complain about then you're pretty lucky...he could be slapping you around or cheating on you.
2006-09-17 04:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by ididElvis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not save in concepts ever throwing a drink in a persons'' face - yet I do understand that once i develop into on my thanks to Edinburgh in 2005, I (by accident) threw some espresso over the in structure jacket of the guy sitting next to me on the prepare.
2016-11-27 20:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you were mad because he was being selfish. He needed the reminder of what you did for him so that the next time you ask him for something, he will do it.
2006-09-17 04:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'd say no. He wouldn't do something for you when you did something amazing for him. He deserved to know that you did that, even if it does "seem" like you're throwing it in his face.
2006-09-17 04:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did not throw it in his face, but he obviously doesn't care for you. Try finding someone else.
2006-09-17 04:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by wldaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋