& I had read the book so I knew it was a fairly depressing story, but at the end of the movie it upset me so much I got hysterical & began to weep uncontrollably. I had told my b/f I really didn't want to watch it, but he kept insisting I would "Love" that movie because it was so good. He was not thrilled with my reaction & asked me was I gonna "wig out" like that at any other movies? Am I wrong to be a put off by his attitude? I tried to tell him I didn't want to see it, but he didn't listen - or wouldn't. The end was tearing me up - I watch comedies or action flix cos I hate movies like this one!! Any advice, I'd appreciate it. Thanks -
2006-09-17 03:52:21 · 14 answers · asked by pumpkin 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I got so upset because my mom was put in a nursing home 2 yrs ago at the age of 61 & I had been through all of the trauma of her not knowing me, not being herself, the agony like James Garner felt when she was screaming for help & having to watch them sedate her, etc. THAT'S the point at which I broke down & couldn't take any more. It was too similar to what I've been going through & I think I let out emotions I have kept under control for 2+ years now. It sux.
2006-09-17 04:06:44 · update #1
Tell him you won't 'wig out' next time if he'll just listen to you. It doesn't matter that you two are in a relationship, chances are you know yourself better than he does.
2006-09-17 03:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by jeffsgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've watched the notebook..its my fav movie..n the book was great..but tats not the point..
u probably over-reacted.he might hve gotten annoyed with u because u were getting all worked up about something so small. however u did try to tell him u didnt want to watch the movie n he should have respected that. he probably thought that if he convinced u to stay on n finish the movie u might unexpectedly like it..which didnt happen.it's not really anyone's fault here.u both misunderstood each other.u could try being a little flexible with ur choice of movies because if u dont expect him to watch horror films which u r afraid of (and i am too..dont blame u for tat!) then give him a chance when he wants to watch love movies such as 'the notebook'. keep in mind at all times tat its only a movie with people ACTING so its not really real. do not let such a minor incident stress u out n cause a drift in ur relationship. make sure ure calm when u talk to him about it..sensibly.
2006-09-17 10:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by sUnSh!ne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your b/f sounds alot like my g/f. The way your question reads it sound your boyfriend was looking for a certain reaction from you. When you didn t give him the reaction he wanted it bothered him. If its just the movie sometimes you gotta suck it up. My girlfriend likes mushy movies. I personally cant stand them. You need to relax its like a course you really dont wanna take but you still wanna do well. Be honest about the movies, share your likes and dis likes.
Outside of the movie does he have pre percieved ideas of how things are suppose to turn out? If he does you may wanna have a talk. If things don t go the way he wants them to go he ruin alot of occasions for you.
Good LucK
2006-09-17 11:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by Topstar01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's uncomfortable with your display of emotions, he's a guy, its to be expected. His attitude is one of defensiveness.
Wait a few days and then sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Tell him everyone has limits and you know yours. Tell him you get very emotional with movies like this and you choose not to watch them. If he can't respect that, then you need to consider exactly what is this guys attraction because he sure doesn't have your best interest at heart.
You have done nothing to feel bad about, he ignored what you told him and the consequences of his actions are on him.
2006-09-17 10:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. In my circle of friends I'm know as the "town crier". Tell him to lose the 'tude and quit being controlling. You didn't want to watch the film, you went against your better judgment. Instead of telling him if your going to wig out at any other movies, ask him if he is going to continue to ignore your wishes and try to talk you into doing things you know you don't want to do.
2006-09-17 10:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Notebook was an amazing "Love Story"... But did you also know that the book was written based on the lives of Sparks Grandparents together.. To all of us hopeless "Romantics" out there... We can only dream of having that kind of love and relationship come our way... Yes the ending was a sad one... But to die in the arms of the one you love... What a better way to go....................
2006-09-17 11:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by levita45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i thought the Notebook was a little "overdone in a weird obsession" sort of way. I watched Dude Wheres My Car last night and it was the most hilarious movie i had ever seen!!!
2006-09-17 10:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and I LIKED The Notebook. Not only because Rachel McAdams is in but also because it TRULY was a great movie. It actually had a point to it.
2006-09-17 10:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by dfksaturn2003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is trying to show his macho side but don't let that interfer with continuing to show your emotions. I like action movies myself
2006-09-17 11:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way during The Green Mile.
Perhaps he does not know how to handle emotion. Don't judge him too harshly. You know how men are...
2006-09-17 10:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋