I am a 20 year old Christian and I am currently living with my Fiancee and we have planned a wedding for next July. The only thing is, I know that it is a sin to be living like this and no matter how hard I try to ignore it, God is really getting to me. I don't want to totally lose my spirit by living like this anymore, but I don't want to move out. It feels like if I were to get married at the Justice of Peace now, it would seem kinda dumb to get married again in July, like it wouldn't feel the same. Please give me helpful advice, especially from the people that have been in my position, Thank you so much!!
2006-09-17 03:36:32 · 12 answers · asked by Tiffany 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My wife and I had the same situation and we got married at the justice of the peace so that we would be right between us and God and had the formal wedding for friends and family to be involved as planned.
2006-09-17 03:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by hinoroam 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The good news is that you feel convicted because that's evidence that the Spirit dwells within you. As to not wanting to "just move out" I don't know enough about your situation to give you specific advice. For instance is your fiancee a Christian? If so then why can't you just talk with him and admit that you both made a mistake of moving in together before having your union sanctified in the sight of God and men? If not, then I would advise you to break off the engagement, as painful as that might be, either until he truly becomes a Christian with evidence to support that decision or until you find another man who is a Christian to marry.
I'm pretty sure you know that a believer is not supposed to be "yoked" with an unbeliever. If your fiancee claims to be a Christian and he doesn't join you in your decision to separate until marriage then you have two questions to ask him and yourself. First, is he really a Christian or only a mere professor of Christian faith? Secondly, does he really love you and want what is best for you or is he more interested in satisfying his own sinful and lustful desires than in you living a life that is pleasing to God?
2006-09-17 03:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by Martin S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one can make this decision for you. You either get married now, move out until July, or live with what you're doing. Personally, large weddings seem to me to be a bit ridiculous, all that money that could have been spent toward a house or a cruise, just to dress up for the day. And yeah, I think if you get married now, it would be a bit ignorant to do it again just for show. It's your decision though, if a big wedding is important to you, and doing the right thing in God's eyes is important, move out.
2006-09-17 03:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you were a Muslim the solution would be simple. For Muslims, marriage is a simple process, you can just go to Mosque and get your marriage solemnized by the imam and two witnesses. And this would make your marriage legal in the eyes of Allah. You could still make the reception in july next year. Only thing now you would not be committing anymore sins, rather get reward if God wills.
2006-09-17 04:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by ATK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only get married once. If you get married at the JP's office, you can have your marriage confirmed in a church, but a lot of ministers will not perform this kind of ceremony---no marriage license, no marriage. I am one of those who will not perform a wedding without a current marriage license to be executed. As far as living with your fiancee, this is not appropriate, and this is why God is on your back.. It is far better to listen to God than to the flesh. Move out. If your fiancee does not approve or understand, then something is wrong with the relationship. A marriage built on economics or sex is doomed to failure. Pray to God for guidance. Jesus loves you.
2006-09-17 03:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by Preacher 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I smoked for 20 years. I used the patch. You don't start with the strongest but the one down from the strongest. I also sent off for free info from the American Cancer society and the Lung association. Then I picked a quit date and planed my week around it. The first day was on a Sunday. I went to places where there was no smoking. Movies, mall etc. and I stayed away from smokers. I started walking and drinking lots of water. and I prayed!!! After 5 tried, and quiting for months at a time I finally did it with Gods help! I don't want it at all anymore. It's been 9 years now. Whew... †
2016-03-27 05:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your boyfriend a Christian? if not then why are you with him at all?
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
If he is a Christian, you both need to stop sinning and honor God
Romans 6:2
Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it?
Sure, God will forgive you of your sins, but do you want to build your future on such a shaky foundation? What will you tell your daughter when she says she wants to move in with her boyfriend?
God ordained sex between married man and woman, going outside the boundaries God has set puts you on dangerous ground
Galatians 6:7
Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.
the right thing is not always the easy thing, may God bless you
2006-09-17 03:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by SETFREEBYJESUS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you stop living together, are you going to continue having sex? Because (while I don't care, I lived common-law for years before getting married) it is probably the sex that is the actual sin, not the cohabitation.
If I were you, I wouldn't worry about it. You are a little young to be getting married anyway, so I certainly wouldn't rush things by getting married at the JP's office even sooner. Remember this: According to your system of beliefs, God will forgive any sin.
You can't "lose your spirit" unless you let yourself. How you feel about your relationship with God is entirely up to you.
2006-09-17 03:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
People who love each other can marry each other as many times as they want. Marry now if you want to, reaffirm your vows with a full church wedding later. You're free to celebrate your love with as much or as little ritual as you wish.
2006-09-17 03:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetchild Danielle 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A good sign. You're being convicted. Follow your heart. Do the right thing, and you KNOW what that is.
2006-09-17 03:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Red neck 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋