We met online 4months ago. At first he told me he was single and after a while he admitted he was married for a good number of years, but no kids. He says he loves me and doesn't want to lie to me anymore. He has not lied since and we talked everyday either by phone or IM.
2 months ago, he asked his wife for a divorce while he was overseas. The wife wants another chance, and he's getting confused. A couple of weeks ago, he went to see her and he slept with her..but he said it was just sex. It broke my heart.
He's not sure if he wants to end his marriage, and if he doesn't he loses me.
He wants us to spend time together to prove if we're in love, the easier for him to decide.
I know he loves me considering the amount of money he's spent on overseas calls...but there is still the fact that he's still married . He wants me to wait, but right now I feel like I'm wasting my time.
I am a fairly attractive female with single admirers but I still have hopes for this relationship
2006-09-17 03:26:56 · 24 answers · asked by 8s_fun 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is confused, then make it easier for him. Don't do this to yourself. If he is ready to be with you, then he wouldn't take so long for the divorce. Stop wasting your time, the one could be out there and you not know it because you are stuck on him. Don't fall into his trap. Be careful and take some time to think about it. Hope all works out for the best.
2006-09-17 03:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by staysee921 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously hope you realize that Love is not based on how much money this guy has spent on long distance phone calls.
If this Man truly loves you, step back, and wait and see if he leaves his wife, without any calls, or IM or anything, he started out lying to you dear, and even though he came clean with you, he turns around and sleeps with his wife.....he does have that right, they are married.
You do not want to really have a relationship with someone that initially started in a lie, do you?
Trust and Respect, he did not have it for his wife, and it does not sound like he had it for you, your fairly attractive and you have single admirers, go towards that, you can find a lying single just as well as a married one.
Don't waste anymore of your time. And put yourself in his wife's shoes, how are you going to feel when you find out he has been relating to someone over the Internet for four months, but this time he has a child...with you.
2006-09-17 10:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks that he is in love with you, his wife and he probably has a girlfriend overseas. All I can say is the same way you got him is how the next woman will get him. If he cheats on his wife with you why are you to believe that he won't cheat on you with the next woman. This guy isn't confused he's just having a good time at the expense of you and his wife. I know that there aren't a lot of good men available but this guy isn't worth your time. Let his wife but up with him because while you may be getting the phone calls I guarentee you she is getting his paycheck and obviously shes getting the sex.
2006-09-17 10:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by Almond_Joy82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u really feel u r doing the right thing?Did u ever think from his wife's point of view?Is there any guarantee that the guy will be honest to u if he already divorced his wife?is there any guarantee that he may not get bored with u after a while?Is there any proof that he really divorced his wife?U said u r a good looking girl. Y dont u try and find a good man who is totally single and whom do u feel will be committed to u.U should think about it seriously because a life can be lived only once..Good luck. Pray to god to show u the right path. enjoy life.
2006-09-17 10:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Deep_thinker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly how long are you going to wait? You have to be strong and give him a time limit or you could be waiting a very long time.
I know people on here are going to call you for seeing a married man but I always say, you can't help who you fall in love with but you can control how you are treated.
Don't let him be in control...........It's up to you to call the shots.
If you give him an ultimatum, you will get your true answer. He will either leave his wife for you or not.
2006-09-17 10:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by sarah k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello?!? Can you hear the warning bells in you little world? This guy lied to you and you know he is married. Sound like the best kind of lover you can get! He even had sex with the wife when he is supposed to be committed to you. Is this the kind of guy you have always dreamed of? Is he the one you want to bring home to mom and dad to meet? Is he the one you will love and trust for the rest of your life? Once a cheater (and liar) always a cheater (and liar).
2006-09-17 10:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop this man not ASAP, but RIGHT NOW!!
IF he is lying and cheating on his wife, he will do it to YOU!!
He is obviously a POS scumbag that would lay down with a goat to do what he's doing. You don't have to tell me, I bet he's in the military.. this is soooooooo classic of that!!
And if he is, you should IM me right away, and I'll be more than happy to tell you what happened to me as a result of communicating on here with someone who was stationed overseas... It's not pretty at all, and it turned out that I nearly died because of the situation I allowed myself to get put in.
Dump him right now this minute! Anything less than that will only be self torture further to yourself!!!
2006-09-17 10:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away! If he really cared about you, he would have no excuse to be confussed with his wife in the first place. I'm sure you don't want any extra "drama" in your life, so stand back and let him figure that one out on his own. He can get back to you when he's finnaly finished. And if he wants to "prove" his love to you, it shouldn't take him too long make a decision. It's nice to have hope, but you have to be real with yourself first. You are a priority, not his marital woes.
2006-09-17 10:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Divo Saint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP STOP STOP right now and get out and over it. Your "relationship" started with a lie and those lies and all the drama that goes with them will continue to follow you. NEVER be involved with anyone but a single man......put yourself in the reverse situation. Would you want your husband in this situation with you being the other woman? What goes around, come around. Smarten up !
2006-09-17 10:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are u 12 ?
don't let this moron yank ur chain He want's to have sex with u by any means neccessary and he just does not want to feel obligated after don't do it ....Even if he's being honest with u ... which I doudt very much he lied to u, most likely he's lying to his wife, & u may just end up like his wife when he meets someonelse on the internet........ don't make that mistake.
2006-09-17 10:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by Blaque Inque 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋