Ok so, this guy I hooked up with said he wasn't ready for a relationship because he just broke up with his g/f. We like each other but...should I wait?
2006-09-17 03:19:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said this when we hooked up and I'm not rushing into anything...I just want to see what you guys think.
2006-09-17 03:45:13 · update #1
duh . . yea
2006-09-17 03:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...Yeah! Because there are two possibilities here and both mean you should either wait or walk away. Either he's just not that into you and is just making this nice lie about a recent breakup so as not to hurt your feelings OR the most likely reason he has said this is that perhaps it's TRUE and he is trying to do you a huge favor that most men never do thereby saving you a ton of heartbreak! Classic dating advice that women have passed down to each other since the 50s: DO NOT be his rebound girl! Do not be his band aid relationship! No matter how awesome you are you will be taken for granted because he is still in pain over his breakup and will (intentionally or unintentionally) use you to help him recover. Once he has gotten over her he will associate you with his painful break up and want to avoid you and move on to someone totally completely fresh and new. Give him a LOT of space. Put his number in a drawer under some papers and forget about it! Tell him if and when he's ready he can contact you. Then wait/walk away!
2006-09-17 10:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by Book Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't... he's telling you he's not ready for a relationship hon! You didnt say how long he'd been with the prior g/f, and it's possible that he might need a very long time to get over her... it's also possible he's got hopes of getting back with her is why he's telling you this... I suggest being friends with him, but don't push him toward a more serious relationship... and at the same time, don't put your life on hold in hopes of something developing between the 2 of you... nothing wrong with just hanging out as friends and enjoying one anothers company and seeing how things go in the future.. but don't put your life on hold!
2006-09-17 10:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I concern, that man is a good person, honey. He told you directly that he had just broken up with his g/f and I think that maybe he's just hesitated to begin another relationship so quick like that.
He just doesn't ready yet. Give him time to forget about his ex-g/f.
And I think you should hang out with him more. Show him that there're a lot of good girls and you're the best. Show him that how much you like him.
I wish you luck.
;-)
2006-09-17 10:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it's worth the wait. I guess if someone else comes along and you're still waiting then go for the someone else... it all depends on how much you like this guy. What's the rush anyway?
2006-09-17 10:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep him as an option...don't expect much out of him however...you never know what he might still be carrying from his breakup, his feelings/emotions might be all over the place because of this breakup.
Let him have time to get over it, before you really approach him.
Until then...there are many guys out there who are single and looking for a relationship. Don't waste your time and effort on just concentrating all of your energy on this.
2006-09-17 10:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes wait wait
2006-09-17 12:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Wanlaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait..wait and do anything to make him understand that u care for him and he is more important than ur life. ..but plz dont irritate him and make him go away from u..patience is a virtue and u will finally win..love always wins..good luck
2006-09-17 10:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by Deep_thinker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is making an excuses already. I would be patient for a week or two, but if you don't start making progress, I would move on.
2006-09-17 10:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by I like Chinese food 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk and do things together as friends. Let things take a natural course.
2006-09-17 10:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by Whisper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time, you don't want to push any guy into anything, they just run from it.
2006-09-17 10:42:28 · answer #11 · answered by stormykathrynserenity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋