2006-09-17 03:13:50 · 31 answers · asked by solo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If my partner, allowed himself to stoop that low I couldnt forgive him.
As much as I would miss him, ache for him and just want everything to not have happened I couldnt trust him again.
He would have taken something away from us. Things that were once 'ours' - intmitate conversations, private jokes and comments would never be ours anymore.
I would endless nights waking from nightmares of my partner having sex with another lady. Making her feel like 'the one' making her orgasm and allowing her to touch him - it would make me physically sick.
How could someone say 'I love you, you're the one, I want to spend the rest of my life with you' and then take all this from you?! It isnt love, love is built on trust.
I would have woken up to realise that he wanted to be with me for any other reason but love - financial gain, the children, to make him look/sound good, because he's too much of a coward to let me go.
No, mentally I couldnt take him back.
2006-09-17 03:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm truly in love I know i would forgive him. Not that i wouldn't care, it would hurt like hell, but i would forgive him if he's really sorry about it. Still, he would have to win me over again... so i can trust him again.
Probably at some point i would let it go.
OH! and i wouldn't take him back if he had been having an love affair while he was with me. I would take him back if it was just a mistake like sleeping with someone just for sex. That's the only way in which the above is applied.
If he was really in love with the other girl... i would feel 100% betrayed and wouldn't take him back never... i would forgive him at some point, but i wouldn't take him back.
2006-09-17 10:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed with my boyfriend when I found out he cheated on me. This happened about a year ago and I still think about it to this day, and I am very paranoid about anything he says he is doing.
It is extremely hard to let it go and trust him. I also feel weak for not breaking up with him, and very angry because I have remained faithful for the 4 yrs we have been together. If it ever happened again I promised myself we would be done.
2006-09-17 10:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that, got the divorce. My ex-husband cheated on me for two years. I found out and filed for divorce. Life was rough for a few years for the kids and me, but there is no way I would ever take someone back once they had destroyed my trust.
2006-09-17 10:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never! What about the trust I've established with him?? Of course, once my bf cheated on me, it will be forever an issue for both of us. I won't have a peace of mind and I will have always suspicion on him. Letting go of the guy is the best thing for me. Anyway, he's not cheating on me, he's cheating himself.
2006-09-17 10:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by Krishna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating? What's cheating? Who says it has to be 1 on 1?
Its just like driving a different car.
2006-09-17 10:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Paul R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people do fall into temptations but if u know this person truly loves u and didn't mean to hurt u intentionally and the person is good to u then i would consider and as far as letting go its a process that you ll have to go through in trusting that person again
2006-09-17 10:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by lilsis2576 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No never would take him back. Been through it back in the days...and dont need that bullshit in my life. I trust the man i am with 100%. But one time cheating on me he would be out the door.
2006-09-17 10:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if they cheat they arent happy and if you take them back they will just do it again in the future and cause more heartache.
best off letting go of them i could never trust them again
i havent been thru it but most of my friends have and i grew up watching my mum cry everynight coz my dad was cheating on her.
2006-09-17 10:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be fair to take back a cheater because, no, I don't think I could ever let it go. I would always wonder if I could trust him.
2006-09-17 10:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tavita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋