2006-09-17 02:55:37 · 9 answers · asked by Mary T 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i don't know your personal beliefs, but i lost my husband to suicide,and for about 5 years life was unbearable.until i realized he can and does live on through me. we have 3 grandchildren now,that know him through his pictures and stories i tell them.one of our sons was only 6 when he died, but his father is brought up all the time,we are constant in talking about things we did together,or things he did. your children are gone physically, but let them live on in you.I personally believe that they are with you spiritually always.live for them ,make them proud of you,remember them every day out loud,they will hear you.you will see them again.but that is for God to decide when,for now you have work left to do or you wouldn't still be here.their work was done.let them go be in peace.. you be in peace knowing that they are with you and always will be.they will never be gone as long as you remember. that's on my husbands headstone. good luck it will be a long road but it will make you stronger.and believe it or not their IS A reason for every thing. God bless and keep you close.
2006-09-17 03:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by karen s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry to hear about your lose. It will take time. Allow the grieving process to take place. Crying is cathartic and will help you release some of the pain but a lose like this will take time and you never fully get over it per say except that the pain does lessen with time. You will be able to move on with your life but hold them in you memory and heart. There is no set time frame for grief but allow your family and friends to love you and be there with you through the process. Talking about it also helps. You gain peace in coming to terms with god or your spirit that they are in a good place. You find peace when you honor their life. God Bless.
2006-09-17 03:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by kitkool 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will miss them for the rest of your life. You will think of them every day. That said, the pain will lessen over time.
Find a support group for people who have lost children. Losing children seems backward; ie, parents are "supposed" to die first and parents aren't "supposed" to bury their children. A support group with people who have buried their children will help you find peace and then give peace to others. It's giving peace to others that will help you the most.
2006-09-17 04:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My blessings go out to you. The article below describes the Kubler-Ross model of human adaption to loss. While this article provides a framework for what you may be feeling, it does little to decrease your suffering.
Remember your children are not suffering. You must allow yourself to let go of the attachment. You may have other family members who need your support. Look to what you can do for others.
My wishes for you is to find the comfort in knowing that you will have extend compassion for others and be a source of support of support for others in a time of need.
2006-09-17 03:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by david42 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Know that you gave them life and tried the best you could for them to enjoy it , remeber their smiles and reactions to things and cherish their memories knowing that they would want to be remembered in a good way by you , but they would not want you to feel grief all the time over their passing. Sorry for your loss , work hard to find your own inner peace, its alot of work , its okay to grieve, but you have to rejoice in their lifes also .
2006-09-17 03:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I am so sorry for your loss.
There isn't much to say to help. I say remember them from all the good times and what good they did for others.
Keep the memories alive to whomever wants to share them with you. I had an Army buddy commit suicide and the family members wrote letters to each of us and asked us for memories. It helped them.
I lost my mother and I talk to God and tell him to tell her things all the time. I also talk to her and tell her I miss her. I know she is in a better place than I am and that eases my pain a bit. I know I will see her again.
Big hug to you.
2006-09-17 03:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
finding peace... you will desire to be solid. i will in no way pretend to renowned the way you will desire to be feeling - i will inform you that 2 weeks in the past I lost the affection of my life; my infants dad (at purely 34 yrs of age) and the toughest undertaking grow to be seeing the infants in discomfort. Being a make certain is loving, giving and putting somebody previously your self. undergo in concepts that those "babies" believed in you - you have been particularly in all risk their superhero and that they'd such as you to undergo in concepts and flow previous... to discover some peace. the solid concepts fill your heart, make you smile and cry on the same time, provide you a discomfort on your chest that sounds like your loss of life - yet even though it hurts, it feels staggering on the same time. I nonetheless have faith he's right here - gazing and guiding. My heart is going out to you in approaches i'm unable to precise. i ask your self to myself in case you have different infants - and that in the time of itself is clarification for peace. My purpose in the international is to be a mom - and which will final my life long previous something that ever occurs. you have been a contemporary - and constantly will stay. i prefer to renowned your finished tale via fact i hit upon myself attempting to wager what subject you're in. i think for you - and you recognize, speaking incredibly does help - the greater you bypass over it - even although you would be able to cry each and every time, the "much less confusing" (and no it would not make it ordinary - i understand that) even though it will make it greater tolerable. I purely have any such super form of questions! i would be questioning of you - I actual will - I desire i ought to declare greater yet please understand, you're on someones concepts. shield you and in time peace will come. possibly not over night - it is so sureal, i will empathize - yet as a make certain i understand you're solid. And undergo in concepts, those infants would be based nonetheless on you to get via all of this; i think that they are going to be with you to steer you once you experience on my own - and could prefer so you might incredibly smile - which incorporate your eyes too - lower back.
2016-12-18 11:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am very sorry for what happened to your children......But dont feel low coz of da.It was their time....you know its always the good ppl da god loves da y He takes 'em.
ok tell me one thing do you believe rebirth and soul and all that..
let me tell you one thng you shud never cry over 'em coz they are watcing you from an angle they must hv taken birth again or they came as a relative or friend.
Life goes on.....stand up again and smile to the world...
2006-09-17 03:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by krittiangel 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Contact Sylvia Browne.
2006-09-17 03:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by chainsaw 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋