THIS..MY FRIEND RECEIVED A PHONECALL FROM A STRANGER SAYING THAT HE IS HER SILENT ADMIRER.HE STARTED talking all nasty things with her about her physical traits and started making lewd comments on her body parts and his own private parts telling how big ...When she snapped back he told her that he is sorry for being rude and that he had never met a girl like her before and that he is a good boy .He also made a statement that if she thinks he is in love with her body then she is highly mistaken as love is something else..he banged the phone down saying that he will call her again which he never did..HOW DO U PERCEIVE THIS WHOLE SITUATION AND DO U FEEL THAT THE GIRL IS TO BE BLAMED for this insult or verbal talk ?WHAT COULD BE THE PSYCHE OF THIS INDIVIDUAL AND WHAT DO YOU THINK he feels for her.Does he love her ?mY FRIEND SUSPECTS A NEIGHBOR WHO ALWAYS KEEPS A TRACK OF HER AND KEEPS FOLLOWING HER ON BIKE.SHE IS REALLY ACTING LIKE MAD , NOT READY TO TALK ,FEELS DEGRADING
2006-09-17 02:29:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy sounds like a stalker - it sound like this should be matter for the police - I would be concerned for your friends well-being and the only fault I can find with your friend is if she allows herself to continue to be a victim of this guy and does nothing about it. If its the neighbor I would think it might be a good ideal that someone - other than her - start a conversation with him - not accusatory - just a friendly chat as a fishing exercise just to cross him off the list or find out if its true.
The key thing is that your friend is not at fault another person's behavoir towards her and I hope it doesn't jade her towards other people which would mean this psycho is winning. The key is that she doesn't allow herself to be a victim to this guy and tell her if the guy calls again to make sure she gets the guys phone number. A guy like this might be doing this to others as well and your friend will not just be helping herself, but other people as well, and get a rather disturb guy off the streets and/or into getting some help - he seems like a real jerk.
2006-09-17 02:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is typical of obscene callers, she should never respond just hang up and if she has caller id, she wants to report it to the police and phone company. If it get persistent, she wants to report it to the police and phone company. This kind of stuff is aggravating but harmless.
HOWEVER if she believes this is a neighbor and he knows personal stuff about her body that he shouldn't, and he's keeping track of her and following her, this is a STALKER. She needs to talk to the police and tell them what is going on. Then she needs to not go places alone, and be extremely careful. The guy sounds dangerous. She may want to protect herself in some other ways, a dog at home, an alarm system, self defense classes. If she is well trained she can consider some other forms of protection but she should ask the police for their advice. Tell her to stop talking to this guy, and NEVER EVER let him into her home or car.
2006-09-17 02:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, when a person does not identify himself, he is a coward. Whatever he says should be totally discounted and ignored. I suggest the next time your friend receives a call like that, she should hang up and report it to the authorities.
Second, do you and your friend know what love is? Love means you LOVE - not be rude and perverted and deceitful. So get this straight - if a person loves you, he will come up to you and express it in a way that you get swept off your feet. Not in a way that the earth under you feet moves away!!
Last, if anybody is keeping track of your friend, and she is nervous about it, she should confide in the adults like her parents at home. Parents always give you the right advice and protect their kids' interest. Tell her to be strong - its not her fault at all - its just a stupid bugger who has no spine that wants to see her shaken up. Dont let her give him the satisfaction. Good Luck.
2006-09-17 02:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she should not feel guilty. the guy is such a coward for not being able to show up and face her. the phone thing is lame. plus it could just be like a prank call or something... for a laugh. i say dont take it seriously. theres tons of guys out there that are a hell lot nicer than that guy.
2006-09-17 02:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by yassem1ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should have hanged up the phone when he started talking nasty. she's not to blame. as for his psyche, he is a very disturbed person and i dont think he loves her. if he calls again, tell her to change her number or maybe stay with friends. tell her to take care.
2006-09-17 02:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a stalker,look at the phone bill and get his number and turn him into the police,very dangerous situation , that's how some guys start off befor they end up raping or worse killing a woman, even if u do know the guy, that's just creepy
2006-09-17 02:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very serious issue. if i were you, i would tell a trusted adult or a cop. i dont mean to preach, but this is very serious and somthing needs to be done asap. if you or your friend dosent feel comfortable telling your parents or a teacher, go to a local police station or call the police. the longer you wait, the more danger she's in.
2006-09-17 02:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by melody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to contact the police. This is not something to analyze and play aropund with. This is called stalking and it is a crime.
As for the psyche- he is deranged and if allowed to continue or if she strings him along, she may end up hurt (physically) or worse -dead.
You friend acting mad will drive him to do something bad. Please have her go to the police.
2006-09-17 02:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by sofballinchic12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a degree in Psychology, however, it doesn't take a degree to figure out this guy is a whack job. How can you love someone you hardly know-hello?! How can you blame her for his insane behavior-what, was she "asking for it" Thats absurd! Tell her to tell him if he doesn't stop calling, she will take legal action. This could get really bad...
2006-09-17 02:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by aquarian77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to report the call to the phone company. The caller can be prosecuted!
2006-09-17 02:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋