ok, i've tried hard and not drank any alcohol all weekend, why do i still feel bored/depressed/lonely?

Question

this is the first weekend in years i have successfully avoided drink. i was kind of expecting to feel different but i feel just the same

Answer 1

you feel the same because your situation is the same. Until you deal with the problem of loneliness you'll feel depressed. There are a lot of ways to feel positive and socialise at the same time without having a drink.

You could try developing a new skill or do something that you have really wanted to do for a long time. Take that step and you'll feel happier and more self confident.

Good luck.

Answer 2

The hard truth is that if one is bored, depressed and lonely, it's probably because they have no purpose or are simply not interesting.

Bored people are often boring, depressed people are often depressing, and lonely people usually alienate those who might otherwise try to engage them.

The solution is usually to find something that interests you; a hobby, sports, art, whatever, and then pursue it. In doing so, you'll meet people who share some of your interests, and you will likely create new companionships.

And at least they'll be based on something that lasts a lot longer than getting just drunk.

In my past, I also enjoyed carousing, but it left me empty and unsatisfied. I thought that people who went out and did things were sods - but I was wrong, I was the sod. Now I do things, rarely have time to drink much, and find much more real enjoyment.

It may not be the answer for everyone, but it's probably not a bad place to start, if indeed you are searching for something in life with more meaning.

Answer 3

Good for you! Now you need to focus on your lifestyle.Expend your social circle so that you don't feel pressured to always have a drink at weekends with your current friends.
A good way of feeling better is to do some exercise either by going to the gym (if you like gyms I don't) cycling and the best of all swimming.The natural endorphins produced when exercising make you feel good (honest, I was a big sceptic about this) and makes you want to do more with your life or at least give you the space to think about what is causing you to feel depressed and lonely and do something about it

Answer 4

man first of all a weekend is a very short time to noitce any difference in anything, alcohol can stay for up to 3-4 days in the blood untill it is cleared. and even after it has been cleared the rest is just your body needing alcohol again making you even more bored, more depressed more lonely !!! you have been drinking for yours from what i see and it became more of a habbit, this will take some time and pateints to overcome this horrible feelings.

all this emotions you have been experiencing + the other ones from your previous questions can all be overcomed but quiting alcohol and finding a goal in life. i personaly turned to religion and i am a changed man.

Answer 5

The drinking was away of coping with depression. (Self-medicating) Not drinking will not make the depression go away. However, you have taken a very important FIRST step. Now you must seek the source of the depression. Depression is very illogical, but creates VERY real feelings. It is highly likely there are issues from your past that you have not dealt with. You need to get help for the depression and alcoholism. Good Luck

Answer 6

You have been drinking too much for years. You are not going to get instant improvement. How about going another weekend without drinking, and then another and then another. Sprinkle in a few AA meetings. Get a sponsor. Do all of those things and you will be surprised how much better you feel.

Lonely? Go to an AA meeting. Bored? Go to a meeting.Boredom, loneliness and the lack of instant results will convince you that you are better off drinking. Don't fall for it.

Answer 7

You did a good job - but now you have continue the same. Just because you didn't drink doesn't mean everything else in you life changed. Life is what you make it.
You need to keep yourself busy and be around other people that don't drink. Find a support group to help you stay sober.
Good Luck

Answer 8

You dont suddenly feel great because you gave up drink for a weekend. You need to find some exciting things to do that you enjoy. The best thing to do is join a gym. You would be fitter, healthier and alot more happier in yourself. Plus you will meet more friends.

Answer 9

If your need to drink was due to the way your body reacts to carbohydrates (alcohol is a carbohydrate), then taking the carbohydrate away will only cause your body to crave it in some other way. If you don't give in, then a body can react by slowing down (depression, boredom).

To counter-act the carbohydrate craving, I eat meals with protein as the main ingredient. And I eat in between meal snacks with protein as the main ingredient. I still eat carbohydrates (sometimes more than I should), but if I have protein with them, it balances it out better, and I have more energy.

I suspect you may be like I was - and have a chronic low blood sugar condition. You may want to check out www.hufa.org for some basic info.

Answer 10

Its all about self control. So whenever you see alcohol think that it is not necessary that you HAVE to take it, THINK YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT IT. I dont drink but my friends do, there is no social pressure for me to drink 'cos my friends know that I have made up my mind not to drink when I am with them or without. Remember alcohol is addictive. Always keep a non alcoholic drink in your hands when you are among people taking alcohol, keep sipping that. Let us know how ur doing!