my boyfriend will do everything except have sex with me. he wants to; it's not a question of not wanting to or not being into me. he's just paranoid of getting me pregnant. I am on birth control, I use condoms, and it is medically impossible for me to get pregnant anyway. I depend on birth control, without it I'd bleed to death. my doctor can explain it better, but the jist is I can't have children. I've told him this. HOW do I get him over his paranoia?
2006-09-17 01:43:03 · 25 answers · asked by missesmoo236 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get married first...you won't have to worry about it...or maybe he's trying to get out of it...he might be gay after all
2006-09-17 01:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy a break! If he's really just worried about pregnancy, it's a very sensible worry. At least he's bothered about you and your relationship enough to think one step ahead. It does sound like you have birth control pretty well worked out, but nothing's completely foolproof. And "miracles" have been known to happen even after doctors have proclaimed women infertile.
Give him some time, maybe he'll come round. And if he doesn't, couldn't you try to have a meaningful relationship without sex until you're ready to manage a child if one accidentally comes along? Sounds tough, but some people live like that :)
Have an honest talk with him in case there's something else behind this I-don't-want-sex thing. Lotsa luck!
2006-09-17 02:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by runtotheangels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what else you could tell him if you've already told him all that. I would suggest letting him know that his paranoia is frustrating to you b/c he has nothing to be paranoid about. Ask him if he wants to go with you to the doctor so he can hear the doctor tell him you can't get pregnant.
2006-09-17 01:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by dawn27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 02:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It almost sounds as if he isn't ready to be sexually active at all. If he can't handle the responsibility of possible reprocussions, and especially considering that it's really not a possible occurence with you... maybe there are other underlying issues going on? Talk to him, explain to him your situation and make sure that he understands the medical point of view. Good luck!
2006-09-17 01:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious you have done your homework and I am sure you have told him all of this. Tell him to put out or get out. Either he is gay or he is hiding something. Maybe he has an incurable disease or something. Ask him in a heart to heart talk what the problem is. Then again he could just be impotent or maybe he is a she and doesnt want you to know. Bottom line talk to him.
2006-09-17 01:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by dgrainger77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two options:
Get married
Move on...
If he continues to think like this...you will probably get pregnant...He sounds like a keeper though...at least he has thought things through. So many people rush to have sex, and despite condoms and bc, nothing is 100% safe.
2006-09-17 01:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are misinterpreting his paranoia. I mean, if you are doing everything in the book to prevent pregnancy and he doesn't want to, then that could just be his nice way of saying 'I don't want to have sex with you".
2006-09-17 01:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont want to have sex with someone who doesnt want to have sex in the first place.
2006-09-17 01:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by malorieks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have often told other guys here that if the woman chooses not to have sex, he must honor those wishes. I tell your the same thing. If he chooses not to have sex, you must honor his wishes.
2006-09-17 01:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If telling him doesn't work, then give him some material to read. That might do the trick
2006-09-17 01:47:38 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋