im 34 year old Russian working for consulate in Korea.married to a 31 year korean woman 3 months ago. she has 2 kids a boy aged 6 and 15 month old girl. but now my wife wanna me to have kid of my own cos she love me. told her that im happy with her children and not ready for any more for while. but told her that i'll decide it in 4 years when i feel im prepared. is it ok for woman to have kid at 35 please advice
2006-09-17 01:42:16 · 15 answers · asked by Danny Y 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Get a doctor's advice. There is a danger of a 30+ woman having a child with retardation.
2006-09-17 01:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Women approaching or beyond the age of 35 have a greater chance than younger women of having a baby with a chromosome abnormality. Women usually have some decrease in fertility starting in their early 30s. It often takes a woman in her mid-30s or older longer to conceive than a younger woman.
Women over age 35 may be less fertile than younger women because they tend to ovulate (release an egg from the ovaries) less frequently. The risk of miscarriage increases with age. The chances of a cesarean delivery rise with age.
I found from my personal experience that the risk of gestational diabetes increased, that I got varicose veins during my pregnancy in late 30s and that although I was in better physical shape then before I had more complications through labor and delivery. It is ok for women 35 & over to have babies, but people should know the facts first and be prepared. If she has a toddler under age 2, she should probably wait another year anyway before starting to try if you both decide you want to go ahead with baby. The age difference spread between the three children would make life much easier for her then as far as day to day life as mother. The older boy would be school and the toddler would be potty trained and independent enough to let the two of you really enjoy the new infant.
At age 25, a woman has about a 1-in-1,250 chance of having a baby with Down syndrome.
At age 30, a 1-in-1,000 chance.
At age 35, a 1-in-400 chance.
At age 40, a 1-in-100 chance.
At 45, a 1-in-30 chance.
At 49, a 1-in-10 chance
Look at the March of dimes website for more information adn congratulations on your new family!!
2006-09-17 11:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by funschooling m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women do just fine having a child at 35. The real issue is whether or not she will actually get pregnant at 35. A woman's fertility dramatically decreases at the age of 27 and it's a downhill roller coaster from there. So if you would like to have a child, I would suggest starting sooner rather than later.
2006-09-17 01:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are risks associated with having children over 35 (mostly birth defects like Down's Syndrom) but most women over 35 have perfectly normal babies. I am 37, had my daughter at 35 and am pregnant again, due in January. My daughter is completely normal and so far this next baby is as well. All of my tests came back negative for birth defects and my 20 week ultrasound confirmed that everything was fine.
Plus, you may change your mind in a year. Just make sure you talk about it with her and it is something you decide as a couple.
2006-09-17 02:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by aliza1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a Korean woman too, and we had our last kid when she was 35. 35,,, so what,,, if she can handle it, go for it. Just get the doctors advice is what I would recommend. Women nowadays have kids in their 40's. Go for what you know.
2006-09-17 03:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by brianpoj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is ok for a woman to have a child at 35 but i feel you are making herwait a very long time before she can have another chil;d and also the risk of coplications goes up. it will be better for your wife and your eventual child if she has the baby sooner rather than later.
2006-09-17 01:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by mummy to 3 miracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly fine! You should allways wait till both parents are ready to have more kids! you have jsut got with a woman who is your wife that has two kids allready your very brave, wait till you are ready, its fine to have kids at 35, even 40! theres nuthing wrong with it, my best advice is to wait till you are both ready, but make sure she dosent think you will not have kids because you dont love her, just dont rush into it, wait and if it happends before then keep it! she might not be so happy if you made her give it up or get rid of it!
jaz + bump
2006-09-17 01:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by bunnyjaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only her gynecologist can say.Some women are in healthy condition for pregnancy in 37 but some others fail in 32.
In my opinion it is too soon for you to have a babyas her daughter is so young .If I were you I would do that 2-3 years later.
2006-09-17 01:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are alot to handle and quite expensive. Just because she loves you doesnt mean she has to have your babies. Say if the relationship doest work out, then she'll have that nice paycheck you get every week too cause shes the mother of yall kid. WAIT WAIT WAIT!! Women have babies in their 40's these days! If she loves you she'll respect you and your decisions and she should understand...if not & shes that headstrong about everything, Id second guess her intentions! thats just my opinion!
2006-09-17 01:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by sillywillyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it, perfectly fine.
Don't let the fear mongers frighten you. It's possible to have a 'challenged' child at any age. 35 is about average for women starting families now.
2006-09-17 01:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋