Ok, me and girlfriend have always had a good relationship, but lately its been like she's attempting to push me away, but she still says she loves me. She used to tell me everything, now the don't tell me a damn thing, I've talked to her about it and she just keeps saying "I don't know" when i bring up the relationship and how its going. Can someone tell me whats going on!?
2006-09-17 00:30:43 · 15 answers · asked by Priest of Anubis 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe it was just a crush for her....and now she realized it...Just ask her directly once...
2006-09-17 00:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by gem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us have been in your shoes at least once. What is important to note is that ANY relationship goes through a series of phases and it can be a rather bumpy and confusing road...
Initially, there is the 'infatuation' phase where the brand new love is something novel and viewed with a starry-eyed passion by both parties...
Alas, that phase inevitably gives way to what I call a 'status quo' or 'ho-hum' phase where the initial infatuation dissipates and, while it may appear that the love is dying, the fact is that you've successfully made it to the stage that 95% of aspiring couples never do. Few relationships last longer than a few months which, on average (3-6 mths.) is when that general shift from 'infatuation' to 'ho-hum' occurs.
The ho hum can be a test in itself, as usually one partner arrives there prior to the other, leaving one feeling marginalized or brushed off as you are today. Time will tell whether she's fallen out of love or has just graduated to the next relational phase.
Some tried and true general dating advice for both men and women: if you feel that your partner needs space and is pushing you away, give them all the space they need and then some. Play the game, even if it is not your nature to do so. Deny your impulses to call or write for a few days or weeks (depending on the relative frequency of communication you share). You'd be shocked at just how much your girl rediscovers that she loves and needs you if she feels that you're suddenly disinterested...
If you give her plenty of adequate space and play her game and she fails to express any concern, it's time to let her go and get over it. The old adage rings true: If you love something set it free; if it loves you it will come back!
Be smart, patient, and true to yourself. If it's meant to be it will work out, brother.
2006-09-17 08:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by crosscheck75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just been a few days I wouldn't stress it, but if it's been weeks then maybe there is a larger issue. Women know how they feel about the relationships they are in, that's one of their personality strengths. So, I would guess that what she is having a hard time telling you is that she's not really into the relationship with you. Maybe it's time you both sat down and had a heart-to-heart conversation about your relationship.
2006-09-17 07:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing could be going on. the hardest thing for ppl to realize is tht even when u r in a relationship you grow in differant ways. what this means is your girlfriend could be chageing but tht doesnt mean anything is wrong, just means she is growing, we all do . on the other hand, if there is somthing wrong and she is not telling you its because she dosent want to tell you. and there is nothing you can do about that. just try to be there for her and if it gets to much for u it is ur choice wheather to leave or stay.
2006-09-17 07:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by trish p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have that sometimes and I don´t know why,but I just don´t want to tell my boyfriend everything anymore, must be to have my own space or privacy or sometimes I think he does not understand me. Must be a girl thing. After sometime though I come round again. Its worth though to be very sensible and careful. I would not like to be pushed then.
2006-09-17 07:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by gini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is drifting away. Take her out for a drink or lunch. Ask her what is going on. Tell her how you feel and what you want and need. You may not get either but at least you Will know where you stand. Take it from there.
If she keeps saying "I don't know" she is either unconscious or playing you.
2006-09-17 07:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has she been having problems with things in her life like me? If so she's just having a hard time getting over wat happened in the past. Just give it sometime she'll come around and things will go back to the way they were. In the meantime just be there for her and show her how much u care.
2006-09-17 07:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by badgirl 419 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heya.....tell her and talk to hertell her that i know u r changing alot then tel me the reason if u want me to be with u u have to tell me anything of ur life and if not let me go and we'll seprate coz u have me to share all the things with me ur happiness,ur sadness,ur pain and if u think that don't want to share them it means that u don't need me anymore and i am an extara and a distraction for u.....i duno ur name but be a strong man and if u realiza that she does't want to tell her secrets to u the leave her alone i hope that it helps have anice time and bye
2006-09-17 07:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by N0t Known Never Ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she started feeling trapped.
back off a little and try to lighten up.
make the relationship funny and interesting, not a psychological examination.
2006-09-17 07:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are about to be fired! seek "employment" elsewhere.
better yet, break up with her, before she dumps you!
unless you are one of those clingy needy guys that whine "please don't leave me....i love you (snibble snibble -boo hoo)"
that's right, I said it! tell her if she can't appreciate you for giving a damn and having genuine concern for her, she don't deserve you! besides there are alot of other girls that will happily "take over payments" and do you right.
now hop to it mister! tell her to kick mud!
2006-09-17 07:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mary Pervo Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not your wife. just date many as long you are young and without responsibility.
give some free space, let her feel she is free. and what if you two broke up? date someone other.
2006-09-17 07:36:21 · answer #11 · answered by franky c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋