Hi guys, i need your advise real bad.We have had our ups and downs with this guy(mostly well...always downs actually).He told me he loved me and wanted to marry me..but when i moved to his country ...he did not bother to c me for 4 months...and even then i saw him only once a months or so with phone calls also once every 2 or three weeks.He confused the hell out of me and finally when i moved to another city he did not even bother to call and say good bye.He kept calling after that didnt even think he was in the wrong and could not understand why it is a big deal that he forgot .I got tired of it..told him that i do not really want to talk to him.I stopped answering his phone calls and sent him a message that what ever i have been or done to have changed things, im sorry.He went to my country but did not tell me .I did not hear from him again. for months ..and now all of a sudden after almost 2 months he just called me.I thought we have moved on...so why is he calling and shoud i call.
2006-09-17 00:19:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you know the answer to this one already. But in case you don't, let me ask you some questions:
Do you have any reason to believe that all of a sudden, he has completely changed and now appreciates you and is never going to take you for granted again?
Do you think that a guy who got you to move from your country to his because he said he wanted to marry you and then didn't bother to take the time to see you for months is worth spending any more time and effort on?
Is there any reason at all to allow someone who let you down so drastically back into your life?
How much would going through all of this again hurt you?
I think you can see where this is going. And I'm not telling you anything that you don't already know.
2006-09-17 00:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sara,
Guys usually try to use gals according to their needs. What i suggest is not to attend his calls. By attending his calls u might make him feel that he is great and u will loose ur dignity. If he was so much bothered about you he could have kept in touh with u right. If ihe had truely loved u he would never stopped talking to u. So i suggest u to cut off with him and give a dam to him.
2006-09-17 07:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by hazel_coutinho 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would move on. He is not worthy of your time and efforts again. It sounds like he doesnt know what he wants out of life. After the way he treated you, after all you have done to be with him, please dont give him a second thought. Sounds like he was just "talking the talk" but when you showed up, he was scared and did not tell you the truth to begin with. I dont think he had any intention of marrying you to begin with. If he did, he would have moved to you or at least come to see you. Please, for your own sanity, dump his azz. Good luck.
2006-09-17 07:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just trying to get attention from you because he knows that he can....other than this he doesn't seem to have any respect for you.
You need to respect yourself and be realistic with yourself... don't feel as though there isn't any other man in this world that would give you attention, let alone love you as you deserve.
Once you start respecting yourself you will only expect and settle for the best.
There are MANY men that would treat you as you would want to be treated...i think you need to ignore this guy, and i know you are aware of this.
Don't settle for less than you deserve. You deserve all that you want and need.
2006-09-17 08:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by Patience 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do not call he is just using you he has no respect for you or he would have stayed in touch with you all the time there would not have been any long periods with out calls or visits he probably has a wife or another girlfriend do not be the Mistress leave him alone you are better than that move on
NO REGRETS NO LOOKING BACK
you are better off with out him
2006-09-17 07:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by tim s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i see the situtation. so you have clearly told him you really donot want to talk to him anymore. you are sick from being called the whole time. you know you donot want him to call you again. next time, when he tries to make a contact with you, just ignore him.
he is a bad guy, when you move to where he lives keeps ignoring you. stop him playing with you, have some self respect and he should be away for good. once you know no more contact, that is it, stay to your desicion
2006-09-17 07:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by franky c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just likes to use you. This will probably not change. You at his beck and call. Just what he wants.
Dump the user/loser.
2006-09-17 07:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jack P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, don't answer the calls. It should have been apparent to you then that he didn't care to talk to you. Don't let your feelings get hurt again.
2006-09-17 07:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by Its Y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it take him to months to call you, that mean the one that he was seeing behind your back dumped he, you are called the rebound girl. don't do it leave him a lone
2006-09-17 07:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's treated you so well thus far.....sure, call him--and propose!
Come on, the answer here is just too obvious.
2006-09-17 07:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋