Let me explain. My 1st BF was a plain guy, a bit overweight. We had a great relationship and I couldn't get enough sex with him. After he went to work abroad I took up a low intensity relationship with a really hunky guy, I was the envy of my friends. Problem was I didn't really find him attractive in a sexual way. My 1st guy was always complimenting me on my looks and noticed when I dressed up for him, I liked the way he lusted after me. I enjoyed being the pretty one in the relationship. My 2nd BF seemed more pre-occupied with himself. It was almost as if he was doing me a favour when we had sex. I found sex with him dull actually. we broke up about 4 months ago. Since then I have been single. When I go out with my friends I enjoy ogling attractive guys with them but they don't inspire me to want to sleep with them. On the other hand when I know some presentable but plain looking guy is checking me out I am immediately turned on. I get excited when I catch older guys giving me the
2006-09-17 00:13:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
giving me the eye as well. Does this mean I am a bimbo who only responds to male attention but can't make the effort to get a high status guy?
2006-09-17 00:15:42 · update #1
you like to be appreciated for keeping yourself in good shape and dressing to kill, i think there is nothing sexier than a woman who knows how to dress and looks after herself , hey nothing wrong with that ..... on an intellectual level , well we are talking desire .... not mental stimulation ... so bimbo or any other mental name calling doesn't even come into it ... if it excites you then it will be good for both of you .... i think it's great that you know what works for you .... go for it
2006-09-17 00:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Gandalf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not just about the sex as some of the answers you got so far indicate...it is a matter of what is attractive to you...looks are not all that is important in a person, whether it be man or woman...as for calling yourself a bimbo or anything else like this...is not what you are...you are a caring woman that wants to be passionate, and there is nothing wrong with that...if you were not a caring person, you wouldn't give a crap if it was a good looking guy that gave you very little attention, in every sense of the word, and be shallow enough to keep him, because he is pretty, and it will make you look better to whomever else....Girl, go with your intuition.....it NEVER lies to you!!!! Best Wishes
~PEACE~
2006-09-17 00:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by no_doubt! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does this bother you? You like who you like; who cares whether or not it conforms to what everyone else thinks is hot? As long as *you* are happy, you should just go with what works for you. Heck, you have a lot of advantages this way too; you already noted a few of them. You also have a much lower chance of being cheated on, too.
Unless this somehow becomes a problem for you, forget the "oddness" of it and just enjoy your life.
2006-09-17 00:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My perception is you prefer substance in a relationship. Good looking men are a dime a dozen. They work to look that way just like a good looking woman. You seem to not want to compete with a good looking man for attention. You know what you like so don't settle. It's fine to date but when you are ready for a relationship go with what you need to be fulfilled.
2006-09-17 00:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about hot or plain. It's about who the person is and how they treat you. Don't concentrate on what a guy looks like. Looks can fade with time. But a real personality lasts forever.
2006-09-17 01:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking. You will find the balance at some point. Some men or women are just about how they look. Some are not.
Maybe you are afraid of a "pretty boy" type. That he would not be faithful.
2006-09-17 00:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life would be verey sad for many if people would only pay attention to the "hot ones". Its perfectly fine. As long as you can keep focus on the person you are with and your attention does not wonder off to the next person who pays attention to you, then you are perfectly fine.
2006-09-17 00:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks have zilch to do with what turns you on obviously.
Your first BF was obviously great so why wouldn't you be loking for a similar type.
Average men of the world celebrate!!
2006-09-17 00:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Yellowstonedogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound perfectly fine too me. Maybe you are one of the women were average Joe is a go with you. Average guys tend to keep things real.
2006-09-17 00:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all want to be loved. Could be the good looking guy was more in love with himself than you. Was your first boyfriend older than you? Cause we are all creatures of habit. Send me a picture nad I'll give you my honest opinion.
2006-09-17 00:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋