why can't I just take an asswhipping ! Ive always shy'd away from a fight I just have this great fear of

Question

disfigured I mean what the hell! When Im threatend by someone i just start shaking and I cant figure it out .. I mean I can actually take these guys I believe ! maybe Im afraid of death hell I dont know . I mean afterwards Im always sorry I didnt just jump in ! If you have some advice on how to dismantle a bully to would be nice without violence

Answer 1

Nothing wrong with shying away from a fight...God loves a peacemaker...but just don't get yourself into those predicaments...fighting is just so 'macho' you know, and it takes more to walk away, than to let it 'all hang out'...and you keep from getting arrested yourself..You are actually thinking rational..where they are not.

Answer 2

That's normal -- it's called self-preservation.

Sometimes people are more prone to pain than others (docs can numb me up with the max dose of anesthetic, and I'll still feel pain, for example). Some a hit is nothing, to others a hit is hurts so much, you're feeling the effects for a week. Every body reacts to pain differently -- and only you know your body best.

Bullies are taught to be bullies, usually by their environment (be it at home with a volatile family; neighborhood where gang warfare is common; role models are "toughs"). Bullies are not always wimps inside, they can truly be sociopathic tykes, and can be mean to the bone.

Best way to handle them? Talk with your parents, get advice especially from dad or a male figure you can trust that isn't the next Rambo (ah, no more playground shootings, please). Their advice will help you chose the best response to the "terror".

Remember this: violence begets violence. So fighting to win in these situations don't aways end like in the movies, it can get worse too. So think ahead, and try a different tactic -- sometimes you can even befriend bullies with an interest, even. So listen, watch and observe, and you find a better outlet, and without the pain.

Answer 3

Don't be too hard on yourself. Your conscience is kicking in. You were raised to know that two wrongs do not make a right, as the old cliche goes. How to stop a bully in his tracks. Look at him and shake your head and say, "My bad, I thought you were the same age as me," and walk away. It will make him think twice. Walk away from it is my best advice, but don't stand there and take a beating. You have to defend yourself if push comes to shove. When you get scared, adrenalin starts pumping through your veins and makes your heart pump faster. This is called the fight and flight syndrome, which is quite normal. Hang in there. If it continues, tell someone and don't put up with the verbal and physical abuse. You do not have to be anyone's punching bag or door mat.
Jude

Answer 4

Fighting doesn't solve anything, Just try to avoid the morons if you can. I have always avoided fights ever since I was about 7 and got my butt kicked by a girl. Hey, it's not funny! I'm serious, stop laughing! She was older than me and I wasn't expecting it! I could have taken her if I wasn't a gentleman and was taught not to hit girls. It's my mom's fault, yeah, that's it. Fine, keep on laughing, I'm outta here.

Answer 5

Usually when you out smart the bully (brain wise) you can shut them up....Start popping of comments that hurt them..Most bullies don't think before they do.....On the fighting aspect maybe your just a lover not a fighter.......You don't always have to fight to show that you are a man....It shows that you are a bigger person than they are.....

Answer 6

Its good that you had this kind of feelings, it will keep you away from any trouble. Stay cool and out of trouble. Everyone has his own business.

Answer 7

well the first time i fought i became very emotional afterwords, i dont know why it happens maybe you let all your feelings surface or its one of life's little mysteries.