liked by everyone . It gets in the way of a lot of things and I want to know how to just get along in life without depending on it ?
2006-09-16 22:20:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
OK, I don't like you!
You have to like yourself
2006-09-16 22:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be liked by everybody and will never succeed in that. People are all different and will react different on you. Easier said than done, but accept that there will be people that dislike you. Like you said: trying to be liked by everybody gets in the way of things and you'll end up living a life of facades. In the end you will not be happy at all. But if you respect others opinions it doesn't need to be your opinion. That's a start. My personal way is being honest and open all the time. It regularly makes people dislike me, at least for some moments, but in general people know that I really am myself and that they can take trust in that what I say is what I mean, positive and negative. Most people end up at least respecting me and that is all I can ask for. I also ended up with good real friends that are just as open and honest to me. Don't live other peoples lives and opinions. You cannot satisfy them all. Takes a lot of strength and personality to be yourself. Good luck and strength with it all.
2006-09-17 05:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wise old grandmother told me never to use the word "need" about something you can't have. "Want" is as far as you dare go on this one. Because you cannot have everyone like you. You may or may not be popular, and at what cost I cannot say, but you will never have EVERYONE like you. It's not possible because people have sufficiently different tastes in who is or is not someone to like. They also have different ways of behaving toward people they do like.
Also please remember there is a great deal of difference between having everyone like you and having no one dislike you. That is a more realistic goal. Still difficult, unless you live in a very small town and are as nice a person as can be imagined, but it's at least logically possible.
But if you can accept that a great many people will remain indifferent to you, it is not unrealistic to at least try to avoid having people dislike you. Mostly that involves not getting in their face if they are not otherwise interested in you. Allow them their indifference.
2006-09-17 05:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you would know where you adapted this trait. How you were raised or what made you become the person you are today. Over zealous fears of such things can be linked to many sources to pick just one. I think it is very difficult to drop such traits that are in you. However you have at least recognized it and if you don't address it, it will do it for you when it becomes to much or causes larger burden. I think we have ways of working things out automaticly.
2006-09-17 05:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by Labatt113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your questions you state that you are a man, and a wife too. which is it? I might like you more if you were sincere
2006-09-17 05:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is human instinct - i hate it when i think someone doesnt like me which is absurd really as there is plenty of people out there that i dont like
2006-09-17 05:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Boo Boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont like you
2006-09-17 05:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋