it is because of what happened 10 mins ago that i decided to open up. i had a fight with my dad. Because i heard him yelling at my mom again and i just really want to help my mom and also standup for myself. but this time it's serious. he usually just slap me or cuss at me but today besides hitting me, he threatened to kill me if i piss him off and then he grabbed a knife from the kitchen and pointed it at me. and then said,"don't think i'm scared, i would do anything". He then started to hit the table with the knife and i was so scared but glad that he didn't hit me with the knife. and then he crashed some plates and continue to cuss at me. i just went back to my room and then he said to me,"i could let everything go but if you make me do that, you know what's gonna happen." i said what? he said he would kill me. i ended the conversation by just being quiet and letting him cuss and spit on me. i want to know what to do and also not give my mom any trouble.i just can't stop my tears
2006-09-16 22:19:22 · 17 answers · asked by i love food 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm afraid to go to sleep because he's crazy and he might do what he said to me. i can't stop crying and i just can't understand why i have a father like this. why is God so unfair on me??? i've never ever had a good childhood memory nor now. i'm 17. through all this years, i've always live under a shadow.
2006-09-16 22:23:26 · update #1
You need to take someone into your confidence and tell him or her what is happening. It should be an adult outside of your immediate family who knows you that you trust - a priest, a parent of one of your friends, or another adult friend. If there is no such person, try one of the numbers below.
If you really believe you're in immediate danger, call 911.
2006-09-16 23:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by ChicagoDude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear you have to leave this situation asafp(as soon as f possible) Having a temper and yelling is one thing but picking up a knife and making threats is another. I strongly suggest you go to a shelter or police station first thing in the morning don't stay in that house another minute. I would be afraid to sleep too. At this point you can not think of your mom she is choosing to stay in this situation for 17 plus years you don't have to do that.. Please Please find a way to get out of that house an go to the authorities and seek help before its too late, I don't know if your dad drinks or uses drugs it sorta sounds that way and there is no telling what someone like that will do..I am praying for you as I type this message so you will find the strength to get out..I am wishing you the best of luck I wish there was some way you could let me and the others know your okay and out of that house..May your Guardian Angel hear your cry for help and shield you with his wings..again Hun please leave don't stay..
2006-09-17 05:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by enoughmichele04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They label people like you and I "victims of domestic violence." From my experience, a divorce can be the best thing that ever happened. Well, that's what it was like in my situation because it put an end to all the fighting, violence, controversy, and pain. That's what I would recommend.. after all, deep down, I know you want to be on good terms with your parents. I've been on pretty decent terms with both of mine since they split. I'm now eighteen. Honestly some people aren't meant to have children.. In my life I stood up to my father but that only made it worse and I wouldn't recommend it.. but after I let him know if he ever laid a hand on me again and did what your father did to you, he never attempted to again. I know it's hard and I know how you're feeling.. it hurts. I'm sure you're not a bad person and you definitely don't deserve to be treated this way.. but the bright side of this is that you'll be eighteen soon. God bless and I wish you all the best - keep your head up, be strong and you will get through this. I'd also suggest finding someone to talk to and confide in that you trust and feel comfortable with.. or someone who can relate.
2006-09-17 05:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could visualize the scenes in my mind. If it is a one time affair, I can say it was sporadic but this looks to be a psychological problem with your dad!! Either he is on some hypnotic drugs or on booze. Your mom knows best. It so happened that these were the things your dad used to do when quarreling with your mom but unfortunately you barged in and the anger is diverted to you. I dont think he has the courage to do what he threatens so be calm. Seek the help of your mother. He needs counselling and treatment badly.Those can be thought of when he is in his normal state. Do not provoke him any further and avoid him altogether now!!!.
2006-09-17 07:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a choice now, of whether to go to the authorities. Yet you are afraid of hurting your mom if you do, right?
Think carefully. Do you think your mom will be hurt more when you report to the police or when you don't?
I am inclined to believe that your mom will be in a more dangerous position in the future if you do not take action to go the authorities now. An abusive person will not stop his abuse, if he gets away with his abuse. And every time he gets away with his abuse, he will become bolder the next time! Can you foresee what will happen next?
So, are you quite clear about your decision?
2006-09-17 06:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry stay calm.contact any NGO in ur locality that helps women.if u dont no any then search on web.u can also contact police as butality to women n threatening to kill is a crime.
or u can contact any mass media with some proofs so that the police acts fast to save its repution.
dont b dishearted.life has its ups and downs.
study well n then become something so that u can take ur mum away frm that mad man.
may god b with u.
2006-09-17 05:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by imsimplygr8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, what happened is called domestic violence. What you or your mom should have done, first off, was call the police. You need to report this as soon as possible. You both need to find somewhere to go and leave this abuse. If your mom won't call the police, you need to stand up for her and yourself and report this. Then if your mom wants to leave him for good, get a temporary restraning order until she can get a divorce. I hope this helps and I hope you will both be okay and get out of this!
2006-09-17 05:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Karin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you and your mother are going through this. First of all you and your mother need to leave the house find a safe place he doesn't know about. Then call the police and report him. Neither of you deserve it. God is not punishing you. Look to him for strength. I hope all goes well with you good luck.
2006-09-17 06:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by gator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be scared god is on your side if that fool tries something u grab the phone lock ur door and call the popo and let them know but dont let him dissrespect ur mom like that because aint no fool gonna yell at my mom without getting kicked out this house but he isnt going to do anything to u most likely
2006-09-17 05:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that....so why don't you and your mum leave while your dads not home? go so far away as you can and call the police...i hope everything works out for ya..i just watched a moive about that today...its so sad..get help before its too late
2006-09-17 06:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by pisceslady a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋