Her father is states away, has seen her only a few times, they know eachother, and they love eachother, he pays child support...but has no real rights and is not involved unless I let him be. So essentially the man who actually goes for long hall would be a father figure. But here's the other thing, I personally want the whole commitment thing and all and unless the man has the $ to really want to take the support away and provide in that way, I don't want marrage. Just the commitment and be as married.... So, knowing that... What are some opinions? (i know, bad spelling... sorry!)
2006-09-16 20:42:32 · 15 answers · asked by SunRise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if u see that as saying 16, there is a space...it's saying I have 1 daughter and she is 6y/o
2006-09-16 20:47:17 · update #1
I'm not against marraige... but I have seen on the side of law wise in ways it makes things harder. So unless the man could really handle it that way, I wouldn't be against going through things and being like married... just not having that piece of paper in general. All in all depends on the man I guess.
2006-09-16 20:57:43 · update #2
I completely understand the guys who don't and the ones thats aren't sure. I myself until even just a year or so ago wouldn't... And a few would tell me I was wrong for that, but when you also have your own, and someone who has theirs, thats even harder... then again they also understand. For myself, no I was not married. I was asked when he found out, but I turned him down. Mainly because one, we were both young, and I always as it was felt like he treated me like a mom, and didn't want 2 kids, and was not going to marry for the sake of the child. When you marry for that reason, doesn't work.
2006-09-16 21:13:27 · update #3
Not a free ride at all... I'm not saying I am going to support him... I am talking about having a friend,best friend, lover, and father figure all in one
2006-09-16 21:20:25 · update #4
Once people get in their mid twenties the dating game is almost always single parents. So it is not a big problem, it's the only choice. It's very rare for someone over 25 to not have at least one child. Guys are very aware of this and usually adapt to it. A lot of the guys have kids but their ex has the children.
2006-09-16 20:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would have no problem dating a single mother. I did it once before. As long as both people know what it's all about at the start I think it's a good idea to set the standards for the "dad to Be" with some degree of financial stability. the last thing you need and want is to support two Kids!
2006-09-16 20:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by lucky 13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AM 55 now.
I would never date a single woman with kids.
At least not until I was in my mid 30's and that was when the available single ladies without kids were getting hard to find.
I mean why on earth would a respectable single guy want to get saddled with someone elses kid when he does not have to.
And be stuck with a family from the get go. It is so nice to have a honeymoon period of a few years before the kids arrive. You might have had one when you were married?
2006-09-16 21:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are saying you want to be in a committed relationship with a man (if you can find one willing to date a single mom), but unless he can support you properly, you will never get married to him but instead will allow your ex to continue to support you and your child.
I am certain there are plenty of deadbeat guys out there who would love to shack up with you and let your ex pay the bills - they get all the benefits and another guy pays for it! However, if you found a decent guy who really cared for you, I doubt his sense of self-worth would let him stay in such a relationship for long.
2006-09-16 21:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I'm in that boat myself. I'm a 31 year old single dad. My son is 5 but I have split custody with his mom.
So from my perspective, I wouldn't have a problem dating a single mother.
2006-09-16 20:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by Chronos23 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a man.There is nothing wrong with dating a single mother.But I am a guy that will not settle for a commitment knowing there is no marriage coming.I personally will not be with someone who don't want marriage.That is not a true commitment.
2006-09-16 20:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What, you were 10 when you had your daughter???!!!!
OK, you should hae written one 6 y/o.
There shouldn't be a problem, just as long as you are up front about your daughter right from the beginning.
2006-09-16 20:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without a moments hesitation, unless i thought she was just looking for a bank roll.
2006-09-16 20:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by sinsofromeo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, get ur self the sevices of some of the dating sites well i hpoe u'll find some 1...Good Luck!!!
2006-09-16 21:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by Drift King 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER DATE SINGLE MOTHERS!
Guys - LISTEN UP! Don't make this very basic, and potentially expensive mistake! Listen to Leykis 101, Tom will help you to avoid this, and many other mistakes, when dealing with women.
2006-09-16 20:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋