Being a Christian, I know that God will introduce me to the right person at the right time, but that could be 10, 20, 30 years from now. How can a person go that long single with no dating? It's starting to weigh on me. I haven't had a date in probably over five years now. On the one hand, I'm glad that I haven't been out one time with all these people just to have them not talk to me afterwards. I would just like some female friends and that would work. I am not neccessarily wanting to get involved, just have at least a girl or two around (not in that way people). I've tried dating sites and those are sorely disappointing. I seriously do not get any responses on those things and yes, I try to connect with people. I have met a couple people online and they end up being twice my age, four kids, three divorces and just plain basket cases. Now I am open minded and I did hang out with them for a little bit, but I was looking for more along the lines of my interests and age.
2006-09-16 19:57:24 · 9 answers · asked by magicka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't like bars. I don't drink, smoke and am moderately shy, so that environment doesn't work for me. The people I've met in coffee shops seem to be there to study with their group, not to meet people. I am funny, outgoing, kind (perhaps disadvantages rather than advantages) and friendly. I don't come off to strongly or desparate. I don't fart or do anything disgusting or repulsive and I don't have any kind of physical ailments. I do have long hair and have been told that that's where it's at, but that be an experiment for sometime. I meet girls sure enough and many of them I get along with, but it never gets passed talking in Wal-Mart or wherever. So, I guess the question is not where should I go or what should I do, but what could be some things I am doing wrong or some things I could do differently? The lonliness is unbearable sometimes. Read my other question under friends for more insight.
2006-09-16 20:02:58 · update #1
No rude comments please. You guys are just wasting space.
2006-09-16 20:03:33 · update #2
It was very hard to tell just how old you are from your picture, but I must tell you that the person you are "looking" for will come to you when you "stop" looking. Sometimes we look so hard that we miss the one that is right under our nose! Live your everyday life and try with all your heart and will to find fulfillment in yourself. Set you sights on bettering who you are just for you! The first thing you mentioned is that you are a Christian. Don't look for "love" on line...go to singles functions at church, involve yourself with church activities outside of worship. Socialize in the surroundings in which you feel comfortable and you may be surprised who makes direct eye contact with you!
2006-09-16 20:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Linda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can impress women by having confidence
in yourself and being sure that there is definitely one woman out there who is made for you.You are right though sometimes it takes a long time to find that one but sometimes you have to know where to go to find the ones who will be compatible with you.Churches have singles groups where you can meet a woman with morals.Or I heard a good place to meet people is in the park.Just go out and learn good conversation starters.Then find a girl and start
it up.You will know if she is right for you because the conversation will go on and on.
Hope this means something to you.Good luck.
PS:dating sites and dating hot lines are places
to find desperate people or just plain out weird people.It is better for you to go out on your own a find the one.This way your chances are
much greater.
2006-09-17 03:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right...it will happen...BUT you have to help make in happen. I would recommend you quit trying to meet someone online and get out and meet some real people, not that meeting someone online isn't a possibility. Go out on the weekends...you will have a lot of fun and will likely find some girls interested in hanging out with you. Good luck!
2006-09-17 03:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by April M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do the rounds of the local churches. They don't really like being used as a dating service but many have singles groups and activities that you may enjoy even without finding a girlfriend. Even if you don't hit it off with any women you meet, they may be able to introduce you to their friends and open up your social circle.
2006-09-17 03:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this seems like a common problem for a lot of people. I think it has a lot to do on where you live. I live on an island therefore there is a shortage of men... I feel you on the not dating thing.
2006-09-17 04:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by girly_sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ure probably trying too hard.
u could aleays try a club that intersts u and find sum female frens dere.
or u could always ask ur frens to intro u to one.
but maybe fate is like tis,who noes tml u may be throwing e rubbish out and u met e ONE?
2006-09-17 03:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by indulge in mine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a lot of people out there who has same situation like u...dont lose hope maybe God wants to give u the best woman for u,,try to look around u....but it is best to choose a christian too...godbless!!!
2006-09-17 03:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by gheN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is..do you believe in god ? if you do, just be passion, god will give you the best....god bless
2006-09-17 03:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by shaffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same situation as i am .. gd luck
2006-09-17 03:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋