I have worked like a dog and suffered for the last 4 months so I could go to England to be with my Lady...we have both had such a hard time being apart from each other and sunk into depression...I drank so I wouldn't have to deal with the pain of being apart from her...we cried so hard when she got on the plane to go back to England...then I booked a flight back without consulting her and she has given me the silent treatment for the most part except today before she went to work we chatted for a little while...maybe 15 minutes...I begged her to forgive me and told her that I loved her...she wouldn't say she loved me back...she just said she was very angry with me and then signed out...I am falling apart here and can't stop crying...I don't know how I'm going to go on...I am going to get on that plane though and I am so afraid I'll land at London Gatwick and she won't be there to collect me....I am dying here..~crying my eyes out~
2006-09-16 19:35:09 · 15 answers · asked by synchronicity915 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am not drinking tonight...this is just how I feel without her when I am sober...I have tried to ring and she won't answer...she says she hasn't even looked for anyone else...
2006-09-16 20:18:31 · update #1
Pull yourself together, get on that damn plane. Go see your lady. Lay off of the drink, it is a "depressant" after all. God be with you.
2006-09-16 19:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by minstrel_of_munificence 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am going to try my best on this so here it goes,
It has been 4 months since you guys have last seen each other right? Well, Not to sound mean but i believe she might have found someone else in here life. I am not saying she is in a relationship but it sounds like she is getting involved with someone eles and she doesnt know what to do. The best thing to do is before you get the ticket, try to talk to her again on the phone though. (Get a calling Card, Its cheaper). Because if there is someone else in her life, You might go there and find out the hard way and do something stupied. This way if you find out here you have the right help weather it be family or friends. Talk to her about why she is mad about you going there. Ask her if there is someone else she is interested in and if that is why she is getting upset for you coming. Because to me, Something doesnt sound right here. If a women moves to another country and loves the person she left, I deeply believe she would want that person to come visit even if it was for an hour a year or a lifetime. But like i said, try to talk to her without crying, Without yelling. Just talk. Also, About the drinking. Thats the worst thing you can do. What happens if you drink and you drive and get into a crash?? You will not only be hurting yourself and your women, But you could also hurt or kill someone when you get into a crash. Take a shower and a sleeping pill so you can sleep it off. Trust me, It helps because i have been through most of what you are going through. Sorry about your pain and about this long letter. Hopes this help's, Good Luck.
2006-09-16 20:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by cratty_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a nice guy... maybe a little too nice. take a deep breath, get outside and calm down first. go for a run or visit a friend or something. don't drink, it only makes people say and do stupid things. then send her a (calm) msg that says you're coming over and you hope she'll be there when you do cos you really miss her. don't hang around waiting for a reply if it doesn't show immediately, find yourself some friends or a feelgood movie and try to take your mind off her for a bit.
remember you've tried very hard and you haven't done anything unforgiveable. she might just be fed up that you didn't ask before booking. and if the worst has happened and she doesn't want to see you (probably not, but IF) - hang in there and remember there are loads of people in the world who'll be there for you.
lotsa luck.
2006-09-16 23:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by runtotheangels 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip.This may not be as bad as it sounds.Some people like to have a say too.But you assumed that she would do as you expected.Maybe a little smothering.So get a grip and call her back and discuss this with her and most of all apologize for booking the return flight.Women are more independent than ever.you will need to take the back seat if you want to keep her.But you can still be in control by letting her take the wheel and do the driving in this relationship,just sit back and enjoy.Long distance relationships are very painful sometimes,so get a grip,and have a little trust.If it does not work out,you will know why and will learn not to make the same mistake the next time.PEACE AND GOOD LUCK YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!
2006-09-16 19:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. To love someone with all your heart and then not have it returned. Why doesn't she want you there now has she found someone else? I would be extremely happy not angry maybe she is hiding something from you. I am in love with a man in England and he was suppose to get on a plane to be with me but now is pursueing someone else after telling me he would do anything to be with me...It hurts deeply I know but we can't make someone want to be with us.....Make sure before you get on that plane she will be there you don't want to go there and be hurt even more if she didn't show up....So sorry
2006-09-16 19:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she's angry because she's trying to prepare herself to let you go. Long distance relationships are hard, and chances are you're both young enough to find something more convenient. It hurts, I know. It hurts her too. What you have to realize is that it is for the best for the both of you. You deserve someone who can be there for you. Someone who can absorb you into her life. Someone closer...
It will hurt...but it will get better. Easier. And the time will come when you don't feel pain about it anymore.
Good luck with this. I'm wishing for ya!!
2006-09-16 19:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay off the sauce. It sounds like you have a drinking problem? Are you on the bottle right now? Then why would she want to see you if your drinking?Sober up and give yourself a slap in the face. Stop feeling Sorry for yourself if your not drunk. Maybe she just needed some space and your being over barring. If all else fails order up a bride. Just like my bother got him off the juice.
2006-09-16 19:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by littlins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't cry. I am a woman and all women act the same way if their guy doesn't talk things over with them first before doing something. I think you are very strong their is no way I could handle a long distance relationship. I am positive she will ba at the airport to meet you. If she's not I would assume the worst (like another boyfriend), but she'll be there to meet you.
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-16 19:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by QUEENBEE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry...but it sounds like she has another life there. Otherwise, why would she be angry at you for booking a flight. If the one I loved booked a flight to come see me, I'd be elated! Something is not right. Please don't place all importance on her for your whole life and emotions. Go ahead and get the answers from her that you need. If it's bad news, then go ahead and cry and grieve, then find aother interests, as soon as possible. If it's okay news, then be patient, and respect her life and privacy.
2006-09-16 19:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by ljpeterson1956 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First things first do not turn to alcohol!!!!! that will not solve anything trust me been there!!! I know what you are feeling too but you got to give the girl some room you know what I mean?? if you love her that much give her some space!! if she loves you she will come in time you have to be patient with a woman. the more you push the more you will push her away. I know its hard to here this but trust me been there!!!! you have to be strong and do what you think is right!!! but do not turn to booze
2006-09-16 19:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋