ive been in a bad relationship for two yrs. i knew the bastard was no good and i still kept going back for more of those fu.ked sessions. i dont have low self esteem. i just wanted something to work. the sad part is i knew all the warning signs and some of it was done right in my face. now the jackass is walking aroungd like i did something to him. as of now i cant stand the bla.k monkey. how do i get this sh.t out of my head. im mad at myself for letting this go on as i did. the other sad part is we had a nasty breakup and i let the monkey come back again before this last breakup. how can i start over again and honestly forgive myself and get all this poison out of my system and move on. why are men such sh..tty people at times. im so hurt and mad and upset. at the whole ordeal. i wish it would just go away. i also promised myself the next time a guy messes up i will kick him to the curb asap.
2006-09-16 19:34:44 · 10 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all don't put yourself down...you're human like everyone else. I guarantee you're not the only person to go, have been, or will go thru the same situation.
I speak from personal experience.
You have to completely let go of those "...sessions"
you don't have low self esteem so you can focus...on whatever
you're smart...you've seen the signs and sometimes blatantly (with this you're not alone)
Sweetie, you're special to God - understand this
Lesson one is to love and appreciate all of you (with this you need to be by yourself for a while)
With me I felt no need to date at all. I spent time reading the bible, listening to gospel music, praying, spending time with family.
Lesson two is to realize you are the most beautiful person in the world and demand to be treated that way, don't settle for nothing less
Lesson three is to call the shots
Lesson four is to pray...for that ideal mate (it's OK to list qualities you want, He hears but won't deliver until you can prove you can handle it)
I tell you this because from what you've said I've been there and these are the lessons I incorporated in my life.
It's been a little over two years and I'm still not involved but have aquaintenances. This is OK with me
In all actuality I'm content for now
and if patient you will be also
men are "sh..tty" because we accept that
don't blame them. they (just like us) do what they can get away with
who's fault is that????
go thru your motions of hurt, mad and upset
then learn lesson one
it's working for me :)
if no one has said they love you today then let me be the first...
I love you!!!
2006-09-16 20:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by mommyseldest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 01:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry.
we all make mistakes. You did it for a reason, parents, yourself etc. I really dnt know.
The fact is that you have to move on.
Time can only heal the hurt.
As for being mad and upset, well, i cnt help you coz im really hurt, mad, and upset for a different reason and Im still a school girl.
Hurt is something that ruins you. You only get hurt if you trust someone.
Ive learnt that.
Im really sorry, and I hope you well think clearer. You just got to learn from this and move on.
Time can only heal the rest..
good luck
Venita
2006-09-16 19:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! do nothing excpet for moving on!
if u kept thinking of him, u wont let go!
so go out , have fun, and think of the bad things he did to u so u would hate him and forget about him!!
and dont go mad at ur self, u were giving ur self a chance!
2006-09-16 19:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by CuteeWorried 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is really no easy way to move on but u can try this i do it all the time when something happens and i dont know how to forgive myself. wat u can do is tell urself that it never happened and just move on if u run into him just ignore him and move on and if u catch urself thinking about him or the situation tell urself that its happened but its not happening now i'm over it and then try to think of something else. i hope this is some help to u. good luck!
2006-09-16 19:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then DO IT! be strong and don't let others wreck your life, i did and i am still trying to pick up the piece of my heart. so don't let it happen anymore.
g-luck
2006-09-16 19:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by answering queen! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls love jerks.. hopping they can magic pu$sy can mysterously change a guy.
24/Los Angeles
"premarital sex creates broken families, broken families creates broken society - a vicious cycle only you can stop."
2006-09-16 19:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, hey , hey... Not all guys are like that. Neither me nor any of my friends would dream of doing that!
2006-09-16 19:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by Ben M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him hard
2006-09-16 19:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow um drink
2006-09-16 19:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by slaphappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋