why are girls so scared to date guys who are already there friends?

Question

and how can you tell if your one of those "just a friend" guys for good?

Answer 1

If you're just-friends, there's likely a reason for that (ie, she's not that into you).

But I say, if you really want a relationship, just make a move and go for it. The worst that's going to happen is that she's going to say no. And if your friendship is of any value, it will be able to withstand a little embarassing sexual tension for a couple days.

Answer 2

When two people connect on a friendship level, there is a specific bond that is formed. A friendship bond is much more comfortable for each of the individuals involved. You can just be yourself and be accepted just the way you are. The friendship is easy and it is "simple" to maintain. Even though you might fight, it is much easier to forgive your friend. There is also freedom involved in friendship, that you don't find in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. When a couple start to "date" it is usually because there is a physical attraction...a "chemistry" that they feel when they are with each-other. With that feeling comes a lot of responsibility, consideration, loyalty, exclusivity, expectations...some people are just not ready for those kinds of commitments! If the attraction is not there between a boy and a girl who are friends, why ruin a good thing by trying to make it something it probably won't be! You will know that you are one of those just a friend guys for good when your friend finds a real boyfriend. It will probably hurt quite a bit to know you were passed over, but if you are truly her very good friend, then you will stick by her and support her relationship because you are happy that she is happy. Who knows...if she allows you to remain her friend, and things go wrong with other relationships in her life, she just might look at you with different "eyes" and realize how important you are to her life...and things just might change for you!

Answer 3

I would be afraid to date a guy that is my very good friend because you've had a relationship all along that was based on a platonic friendship - you've had to avoid certain chemistry that might otherwise have happened with another person who wasn't your friend. Sometimes we have built up a security wall around us that prevents us from seeing the boyfriend potential in the friendship. You can tell when a guy is 'just a friend' for good when there's more of a sister/brother relationship - it'll be obvious to you.

Answer 4

To women...friendship means a lot. If I date a friend and things don't work out, chances are he'll just disappear from my life and losing a friend is more traumatic to me than losing a boyfriend.

You'll know anyway if the girl just wants you as a friend when she just treats you like one of the guys...when she start's giving you extra attention...then she's starting to notice you.

Answer 5

Because friends should be forever, & relationships come & go. If you start dating a friend, things get complicated maybe have a bad breakup then you've lost a friend too... Hmm how to tell if your just a friend 4 good... Go out get drunk & try for a party pash, if it doesnt go to plan then just blame it on the booze the next day?

Answer 6

cuz you are probably someone special in their life and close to the best thing she has and she doesnt want to lose that like if she dated you or got close to you then if you guys had a fight things between you would never be the same as they were so she has to make a decision get close and be happy and there be a chance where you guys could ruin ur relationship together as friends or stay friends and she will know that she will have you as long as she wants to remain ur friend and never have to worry about you leaving her cuz you dont like her anymore being close.

Answer 7

Probably because they don't want to risk losing the friendship. To this day, I have a female friend who I have known since Highschool...but we have never been boyfriend/ girlfriend...even though I always have known she wanted more. I always felt bad about that part...but we are still good friends to this day, and both married to seperate people. I honestly think that if we dated...it would have ruined our friendship.

Hope this helps

Answer 8

They probable recommend that you would possibly want to be afraid of what human beings imagine. I had a boyfriend that develop into ashamed to loaf round which includes his pals even as with me. So I dumped him. in case you want to be in a IR courting you need to not be afraid of what your associates or relations or each person else thinks because everybody has their personal damned opinion on who they might want to imagine you need to date without ever thinking your own personal happyness. i'm courting a hippy guy and he and his pals/relations couldn't care a lot less and that i do not care both. Thats the way it will be. Do what you want dude otherwise everybody else will carry you down.

Answer 9

they are generally just friends because they don't have qualities we look for in men we date. we may consult with them like a girlfriend does to other female friends. also, they may not meet the physical wants we have in a guy. and you could become more like a brother, and unless we're in kentucky, that's not a good thing. I think unless you hit it off in the beginning of a friendship, its not likely to become anything more.

Answer 10

Speaking from personal experience it's b/c we don't want to ruin the friendship and make things awkward between us if it doesn't work out. Generally girls won't ask one of their guy friends out, they will wait for you to approach them, so you'll never know unless you ask.