I am 21 and still a virgin...?

Question

I am 21 years old, and still a virgin...My friends dont even know I am...Its not that I am afraid, I just have a problem approaching girls..people tell me that I am a good looking guy, I am just really shy and passive. Am I lame? what can I do? any suggestions would be great. I am in the military and stationed in hawaii...kinda busy..and I am underway for 6 months out of the year. thanks in advance...Mike

Answer 1

i just answered this! why keep asking same question? wait until marrage.


24/Los Angeles
"premarital sex creates broken families, broken families creates broken society - a vicious cycle only you can stop."

Answer 2

If you can't get laid in Hawaii... You might have a problem.

If I were you... I would take a good look at your buddies. Are they a bunch of dorks? If so, they are probably scaring away all the women.

The first thing you want to do is get yourself some new clothes. Get your self a few silk aloha shirts. Don't be afraid to pay $120. for a single shirt. Get some new pants to match and a nice pair of shiny dress shoes. Again... don't be afraid to over pay for some nice shoes. Make yourself look like a local Hawaii business man. (Not a Jar-head)

Your friends are probibly dorks, so ditch them. Try going out by yourself. Show up at the bar solo and see what happens. Start by giving the girl a genuine complement. Find something you like about her and then tell her about it. Then go from there.

If you get a number or a date or whatever... Don't introduce her to the dorks who call themselves your buddies until you can't avoid it any longer. (She doesn't want to meet them anyway) Spend time with her & her friends... not yours.

If you need to choose between your friends and getting laid... Forget about your friends and get laid.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with you. In fact what you are doing is incredibly brave given military men have a bad rep for screwing any living creature on this planet. There is no right or wrong way of having sex and the first time will always be strange. I guess the best way to approach this is to be with someone you trust and love, of course be involved in a relationship as you don't want to feel lousy after a one-night stand that doesn't mean anything. What you have is truly significant and sacred. Only give it to someone who you will regard as worth it. Don't rush into it. Take all the time you need. I hope I helped you a little

Answer 4

Thank Goodness you're not making yourself a sex crazy person and using yourself up over a bunch of women. There's no payoff, except feeling either arrogant, or like a piece of garbage.

Don't take any bad advice from horny men. There are plenty of nice girls that are similar to you in interests. The best relationships are based on things other than sex-- which a worthy bonus. Seek a relationship by trying to learn something new: go to museums, find music or dance classes (salsa and swing are best), political clubs and don't forget to be friendly to everyone in the room.

Making a good impression to everyone is important. Now there is always one great girl in a crowd, you simply have to keep your eyes open and seek her out. Her look should include something other than just "sexy".

Good luck and never feel you are different from everyone else because you are just like anyone else or better.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with it, man. But you are missing out on one of life's greatest gifts. If you are extremely shy what I would do is get a hotel room one night and call in an escort. Ask for a really hot girl and when she gets to your room tell her your situation. She will help you out and probably even show you a few tricks. You will get experience really fast. And they require that you use a condom so you have nothing to worry about. If you don't want to do that then you will have to eventually get the balls to hook up with a girl. For your first time just find an average girl and get the job done. One you have sex you will want to do it all the time. So hopefully you find a girl that likes to have sex a lot. If so you are set. But lots of really shy guys use escorts or "hookers" for their first time because it's nerve racking. Not many guys will admit to it but it's a big secret that guys keep.

Answer 6

My man I'm 24 and still Virgin. I don't know how to kiss or approach a girl aether i don't even know how to masturbate. You are in the military I'm working in damn Russian restaurant 7 years already. I have no education nor high school or college I'm an idiot that i didn't finish high school. i though money is everything i wonted to open my Owen store but I'm getting only 8.5$ got promoted 3 month ago.

Answer 7

Hey, I'm a 21 year old virgin too. I have a beautiful virgin fiancee and I wouldn't have it any other way than to share that with her. You're not lame. As for approaching girls, be yourself and be confident. That has always worked for me.

Answer 8

Mike, You will no doubt get a lot of suggestions here, but I personally commend you. There is a woman out there for you, and when you find her and marry her, you will be able to give her a precious gift. That is my opinion, I hope you do not feel like you have to "score" to prove anything to anyone. You should be proud.
God Bless You. ( He already is )

Answer 9

To be honest...you are a little lame, but that being said. if approaching girls is that much of an issue for you then, you've waited this long, you might as well wait until you find a girl/guy special enough to have your first time with.

It is a precious gift to give someone, but don't wait too much longer.

Answer 10

If you are looking for somebody to tell you it is okay to have sex I am sure that you will hear that. Some will tell you to go get a prostitute if you are worried about it that much. I am telling you to just go out and have fun. Sex will happen in due time. Meanwhile keep save in those six months.

Answer 11

well i'm 20 and i'm a virgin too. i choose to be one. there's so many times when i was tempted but i'm still hanging on. look many people can't commit in a relationship because of premarital sex. why get married if you can have sex without attachment right? well i wanna get married someday and i want it to be special. and having sex before marriage takes away everything that makes marriage a special thing.
i have a boyfriend and trust me it's difficult but i know it's worth it.