I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months. We're both in love. We are both 21. He is Mexican and I am Armenian. We are not from the same nationality. That does not bother us; however, my parents made me break it off with him when we were 2 months together. However, ever since then we have still been talking. If my parents find out I will get kicked out of the house because we come from different backgrounds. We get along great. I come more from a higher class family and he comes from a lower class family. My friends and coworkers dont like it b/c he is Mexican. That doesnt bother me. I feel confident being with my boyfriend but since everyone is so against it and are negative I feel lost, alone, extremely depressed, and sad. I wanna know what you guys think of this? Dating different race is not a problem for me. He treats me sooo great. I love him soo much. Thank you for helpin me with your suggestions. Im just really depressed n need help from others.
2006-09-16 19:04:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are planning to be together in the future, get married n start a family. I don't care what others think... Even though my parents have been there for me and have done sooo much for me. I feel guilty doing this to them :( But this is my life. I am sooo happy with my boyfriend.
2006-09-16 19:05:34 · update #1
and money is kinda an issue with him. so i feel like maybe it wouldnt work out. but that doesnt really bother me. it bothers my friends
2006-09-16 19:09:33 · update #2
Maybe it's time to move out on your own. Just because he is Mexican and in a lower class family doesn't make him any different than anyone else we are all human. Your parents need to understand he makes you happy and he is a good guy. You are 21 and you can date whoever you want. Your so called friends have nothing to say and need to mind there own business. They sound more like they are jealous. I would keep dating him if you truly love him. In time your parents will have to accept him. And as for your so called friends maybe you need to think twice about them. If they were your friends they would be happy for you and support you with your relationship! Don't feel you are alone because you aren't you have your boyfriend that may one day become your husband. If you both truly love each other then just weight it out. Your parents will come around. I really believe they will. Especially if they see how happy he makes you and that should be all that matters! Right?
2006-09-16 19:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you've already answered your own question. If you plan to be together in the future then so be it. Keep seeing each other, secretly if necessary. You're both adults and can make your own decisions. Speaking for parents everywhere - we can be pretty hard on our kids, but we still love them. They might be mad if you marry this guy, but, believe, they'll get over it. All parents really care about is that your husband is good to you.
2006-09-16 19:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say congrats on finding someone that makes u happy...to tell u the truth sweetie if ur and ur man r happy then screw other ppl..i think it pretty crappy that ur friends and co-workers dont support u..thats aint right..but ur family they just may need time to get use to the idea..im not sayin dont value their opinions just give em time once they see how he makes u happy they will come around..but for now enjoy being young and in love...
2006-09-16 19:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to convince your family how serious you are about him. Ask them if in the future they'd come to your wedding. Tell what you said here. You'll marry him regardless. With or w/o their blessing.
They might just think you are having a fling or something.
By all means, God bless you for an interacial relationship. Your mind and heart are open. Take care and good luck.
2006-09-16 19:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ahab 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u r not doin anything wrong!
u do and plan for ur future and no1 should interfere with this.
if u r happy with him then this is what u want,and never let ur family be an obstacle! they will not hate u for this for ever!
2006-09-16 19:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur parents r first generation in america huh?
they'll probably disown u or something if u wont break up with him.
ur gonna have to decide to stay with family or go with the man u love. ur parents probably wont budge.
2006-09-16 19:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by hgary06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your question. As long he is not abusive and on drugs or have a drinking problem go for it.
2006-09-16 19:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your life you are 21. if you love each other, be with each other, don't let ANYONE interfere, it can **** it up for both of you.
2006-09-16 19:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by nana_sks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call Bollywood. Then....(musical)
Unbreak my heart, say you'll love me again.....
Then, I would call a dietician.
2006-09-16 19:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,then,just DO IT!
2006-09-16 19:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋